Define Success | 10 Ways | Power Words Series

Words, backed up by their meaning, that
haunt your days and nights will have a real impact on your life. Always. So let’s
find the power words, define them well, and let them take over our minds. We’ll
start with… SUCCESS. [Bob Proctor] I was 26 before I ever understood what success is. Success
isn’t getting there; success is making a decision that you’re
going to get there and move toward it. It’s like the kid in school that’s getting
C and D average and he’s working for an A and B. And they’re giving it
everything they’ve got. They are successful person. It’s like a person that’s maybe
accumulated a million dollars and is working towards an estate of five
million and they’re progressively moving in that direction. They are successful person. Each one as
successful as the other. It’s got nothing to do whether it’s a mark for a
kid in school or it’s an amount of money for a businessperson. Success is the
progressive realization of a worthy ideal. That’s Earl Nightingale definition
of success. He stumbled on that in 1951. He died in 1989, and he never changed a
word. I came across that in 1961. I have never changed a word, and I’ve never
found a better definition. I think Earl Nightingale has nailed it. Success is the
progressive realization of a worthy ideal. I’m here, I know I’m here, I’m
going there, and I know I’m gonna get there. I don’t know how I’m gonna get
there; but I know I’m going to get there. [Matthew McConaughey] It’s a get-rich-quick on the Internet
riches 15 minutes of fame world that we live in, and we see it every day. But we
all want to succeed. Right? So the question that we’ve got to ask ourselves
is, “What success is to us? What success is to you?” Is it more money? That’s fine. I
got nothing against money. I don’t. Maybe it’s a healthy family; maybe it’s a happy
marriage; maybe it’s to help others to be famous, to be spiritually sound – to leave
the world a little bit better place than you found it. Continue to ask yourself
that question. Now your answer may change over time and
that’s fine. But do yourself this favor: whatever your answer is, don’t choose
anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are, who you want to
be, and don’t spend time with anything that antagonizes your character. Don’t
drink the Kool-Aid, man! It tastes sweet but you will get cavities tomorrow.
All right? Life is not a popularity contest. Be brave, take the hill; but first
answer that question. What’s my hill? So, me… How do I…, how do I define success for
me, myself. Well, for me it’s a measurement of five things. We got fatherhood. We got
being a good husband. We got my health, mind, body and spirit. We’ve got career,
and we got friendships. These are what’s important to me in my life right now. So
I try to measure these five things each day. I check in with them. I like to see
whether or not I’m in the the debit section or the credit section with each
one. A man in the red or a man in the black? You follow? For instance sometimes,
say, my career’s rolling. All right? It’s way up here in the black but I see how I
my relationship with my wife maybe it could use a little bit more of my
attention. I got to pick up the slack on being a better husband. Get that one out
of the red. Or, say, my spiritual health could use some maintenance. It’s down
here; but hey, man, my friendships and my social life they’re in high gear. Right?
I got to re-calibrate, checks-and-balances. I got to go to church, remember to say
‘thank you’ more often, something. But I got to take the talaq because I want to keep
all five in healthy shape and I know that if I don’t take care of them, if I
don’t keep up maintenance on them, one of them is gonna get weak, man. It’s gonna
dip too deep into the debit section. It’s gonna go bankrupt, it’s gonna get sick,
die even. So first, we have to define success for ourselves and then we have
to put in the work to maintain it. Take that daily tally. Tend our garden. Keep
the things that are important to us in good shape. [Oprah Winfrey] I think that success is a
process and I believe that my first Easter speech and the Kosciusko Baptist
Church, at the age of three and a half, was… was the beginning. And that every
other speech, every other book I read, every other time I spoke in public was
was a building block. So that, by the time I first sat down to audition in front of
a television camera and somebody says, read this, what allowed me to read it so
comfortably and be so at ease with myself at that time it was the fact that
I’d been doing in a while. If I’d never read a book like never spoken in public
before I would have been traumatized by it. So the fact that we went on the air
with The Oprah Winfrey Show in 1986, nationally, and people say, “Oh, but you’re
so comfortable in front of camera. You can be yourself.” Well, it’s because I’ve
been being myself since I was 19, and I would not have, I would not have been
able to be as comfortable with myself had I not made mistakes on the air and
been allowed to make mistakes on the air, and understand that it doesn’t matter. [James Cameron] I guess success is when is when people are listening, and and there’s some
measurable change in in consciousness worldwide; even if it’s even if the
needle barely moves. You know? I think that if you’re, if you’re communicating
ideas and telling stories… if the feedback, if the feedback is that those
that those seeds are landing on fertile soil that’s, that’s success. I can certainly define happiness because that’s what, that’s what I am. I mean I get to do what I like to do every single day of
the year. And I get to do it with people I like. I get that, I get to… I don’t have to
associate with anybody that causes my stomach to churn. And, the only thing in my
job I don’t like, and it’s only happens about every three or four years, occasionally
I have to fire somebody, and I don’t like. That’s the only thing. Other than… I
tap dance to work and I get down there and I think I’m supposed to lie on my
back and paint the ceiling, you know… or something. I mean, yeah, that’s what I
feel, and it doesn’t diminish. It’s tremendous fun. So success is
getting what you want and happiness is wanting what you get. Well, I don’t know
which one applies in this case; but I do know that I wouldn’t be doing
anything else. Something I do advise you. You know, and when you got to work, go to
work for an organization that you admire people you admire because it’ll
turn you on, and you ought to be happy where you are working. Get
right into what you enjoy. You know? And you’ll be successful at it. You really
will. I mean you will be able to miss and… I don’t regard what I do is the most
important thing in the world at all, but it’s right for me. I mean, I happen to be
wired in a certain way that what I do works in this if I had to do. But… you
know, Bill does. I mean lasts about ten minutes. And that’s true about a lot of things,
but I luckily I kind of stumbled into the thing that I do best, and that, you
know, that it’s worked out well. I think if you, you know, if you believe in
what you’re doing many people will tell you, you know, why you’re
mistaken, why it will never work, you know. But if you really believe, passionate in
what you’re doing just… and, you know, keep going , keep, keep pushing on
and keep pushing on. [Richard Branson] And then if you don’t succeed pick yourself up
and, you know, try again, and ultimately, you know, if
you’re that determined you will succeed in life. People say you have to have a lot of
passion for what you’re doing and it’s totally true. And the reason is
because it’s so hard, that if you don’t, [Steve Jobs] any rational person would give up. It’s
really hard, and you have to do it over a sustained period of time; so if you don’t
love it, if you’re not having fun doing it, you don’t really love it – you’re gonna
give up, and that’s what happens to most people actually. If you really look at
that the ones that ended up, you know, being successful unquote in the eyes of
society, and the ones that didn’t oftentimes it’s the ones that are
successful loved what they did so they could persevere when, you know, it
got really tough. And and the ones that didn’t love it, quit. Because they’re
sane, right? Who would want to put up with this stuff if you don’t love it? So
it’s a lot of hard work, and it’s a lot of worrying constantly and if you
don’t love it, you’re gonna fail. [Will Smith] Make a choice, like you just decide. What its
gonna be? Who you’re gonna be? How you’re gonna do it? Just decide. And then, from
that point, the universe is gonna get out your way. [Simon Sinek] What is it? And I think it’s
very interesting that if most people can’t define success – well, it means you
made X amount of dollars or…But if you make X amount of dollars, but you spend
more, are you successful? Or what means you come home happy every day, okay? How
do you know when you’re happy? You know? So, I think success is a funny thing
which is we all seem to pursue it but we don’t know how to measure it or actually
how to define it. So how do you pursue something that you can’t measure?
Fascinating. So, when people say to me how do you measure success, the question we
all have to ask ourselves, “Am i successful?” I don’t know. I mean I had a
good year last year. And what does that mean? Does that mean I made a lot of
money? Does that mean he’s really happy? Well, I’ll let you decide. Right? Maybe neither.
Maybe both. I had a good year last year but am i successful? And the answer is, “No.”
I don’t feel I am because I’m trying to build a world that doesn’t exist yet. I’m
trying to build a world in which 90% of people go home at the end of the day
feeling fulfilled by the work that they do. So I definitely took a step, a big
step forwards my goal, but I’m still so far away. So somebody said to me, “Then how
do you know if you’re successful?” And the answer is: if it can go by itself. And so
it is more interesting to me as a measurement of success is not
the markers per se, it’s not the financial goal or the size of the
house that you want to buy. Those are nice things. Go for it! But those are
not measurements of success. Those are just nice things to collect along the
way. For me it’s momentum. I want to measure momentum which is, you
know, when something is moving and you start to see you lose momentum you
like, oh, give it a push. Because if you don’t give it a push it’s gonna stop and
an object in stasis is much harder to get going. It requires a lot more energy
to get something started than it does to keep it going. Right? And so, if you don’t
let it stop and you can keep it going it’s this you know it still might slow
down down there but you can get it going again much easier. And for me, the
opportunity is to get the ball rolling faster, and faster, and faster, and faster,
and faster, and bigger, and bigger, and bigger, and it’s like a snowball. And my
responsibility is – because it’s not rolling downhill yet, it’s not on
automatic yet – I need to still keep it going to find that critical mass where
it can go, “pssh” and at the point it can go by itself without me, then, I will find
something else to do. [Larry King] How did we define success? Can a bus driver on the street
be defined as successful, and the guy who’s the CEO of that business not
successful? [Alex Barayan] So when I started out on this journey I had the same definition of
success as almost everyone. Which is, I thought, you know, the more powerful you
are, the more wealthy you are, the more successful you are. You know, the Forbes
list idea. It wasn’t until I met Steve Wozniak, the co-founder of Apple
Computers, that he completely redefined my understanding of success. He helped me
realize that, you know, if you put Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak side-by-side most
people will say Steve Jobs was more successful. But Wozniak thought me realize
that success has much more to do with how you define it. How you look within
yourself and ask yourself, what do I actually want; what makes me happy. And if
what makes you happy is driving a bus and coming home
five pm and picking up your kids and playing catch with them, and you’re the
CEO of a company and never see your kids you’re not successful. If you’re
miserable, if you’re not doing what you want to do, that’s not success. So, should we broaden ideas of what it means as a definition flawed. I believe
that the natural human and really Western definition of success, which is
more money, more power, more prestige, isn’t right. Look, it might be right for
some people who want that, but for the vast majority of people who want to be,
you know, a mother and working, and helping at their kids school; or a father
who wants to be, you know, involved with their community. I think the idea of the
more Twitter followers you have and the more money you have is a flawed model.
You have to look within yourself and ask yourself what you want. [Cristina Imre] What’s your
definition of success? Find it, write it down, and pursue it for the rest of your

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