coping with a mental illness: boyfriends, medications, school | Q&A | Alexa Losey


Hey guys, what’s up? It’s Alexa. Uhh, welcome back! Thanks for coming back. Um, I was filming a “what I eat in a day video” and I literally couldn’t get through it just because I didn’t feel like I was into it. And I just don’t really think it’s fair to make videos, for me and for you guys, if I’m just not really enjoying it. Because I feel like you just don’t make good content and that’s not fun. So I decided to just sit down and do another mental health Q&A just because I don’t even really know what else to make. I just feel like that’s kind of who I am as a creator for now, which also feels kind of horrible and I just didn’t really know I was going to react the way that I did and react so vulnerably and the past few weeks have been really, really weird since the first video talking about the hospital and the second one with like a follow-up and all my friends have been incredibly supportive and you guys have been incredibly supportive. And just kind of hearing what you guys have to say is absolutely amazing. Okay, so I just wanted to thank you guys for being so cool, and I wanted to do something for one of you guys that would hopefully brighten your day and um, I found all this and decided I wanted to give it to somebody so it’s just like 600 dollars worth of makeup. It’s like a lot of benefit stuff, um like some highlighters, an eyeshadow palette, just kind of like a little care package and I figured somebody would really, really love this so I’ll leave a link down below of how to enter, and hopefully somebody that wins is somebody that’s going through something and can get brightened up by this. So, yeah. “How do you feel about starting medication?” Um, medication has really personally helped me out a lot um, it makes life a lot easier so I think, I mean it’s not right for everybody and some people really disagree with me I think just have an open mind about it if you think it’s going to help you, maybe give it a shot. Talk to your psychiatrist. I don’t know! “How did you learn to cope with different symptoms that came along with illnesses?” Um, a lot of hard work, honestly that’s the thing, it’s like taking care of your mental health is a lot of work. It’s like having a full-time job. So I think I’m really not even fully in a place where I feel like I’ve coped with everything. I think if I was I would be making a “what I eat in a day” video currently. Life is totally hard. It’s really hard to cope with some things. There are some days where I can’t do much and I think the biggest thing is just learning how to accept that. And I think my also biggest thing is learning how to relax and take time for myself because if I don’t, I just end up spacing out and doing nothing for like an entire day it’s really bad. How did I keep up with school while I was in the hospital? Um, I kind of didn’t. Their whole thing is they only really let us do 3 hours of schoolwork a day So I just kind of did the bare minimum, took my tests when I had to, and I had to finish it up over the summer, but I actually ended up graduating early and, I had to finish up the work over the summer, which was a lot, but you know, priorities. “What’s something that gets you through a rough day?” Honestly, I have a few friends that I talk to about how I feel a lot and I typically will just like FaceTime one of them, call one of them, and they always do the same for me. So they just kind of get me through it and they really cheer me up. I have like probably 2 friends, specifically, that are just so supportive and amazing. And then I think if it’s one of those days where it’s just me, I’ll just go and do something or I’ll just be like, “Okay, I’m going to zone out and watch TV for a bit” Um, yeah, I just kind of try to do something, but some days I can’t pull myself out of it So… Advice for people with testing anxiety. I have horrible testing anxiety. Before I take a test, I’ve been known to have panic attacks, panic attacks during tests, Um, you can get a…most schools allow you to get a learning disability pass so when you’re taking tests you can either be in like a quiet room by yourself, or you might be able to have an extra like two hours It would take me, because I’m dyslexic, about four hours to take a math test. but I was allowed to have six hours, and I was allowed to come back. So I could like take the test for three hours and then come back the next day and finish the test. Um, but that was just because I had to get a learning disability pass. “Was it hard opening up to your friends about a mental illness?” Um, I think it was weirdly easier to tell the internet than it was my friends. A few people really knew about it, but now it’s like it actually is nice having all my friends know and it was nice kind of coming out with that to everybody at one time. But yeah no, it’s very weird talking about it with friends and I love talking about it now, because I feel like I’m kind of like set free in a sense but…yeah Somebody asked me how you cope with being heartbroken while you have depression. And I think this is literally one of the hardest things you can do in the whole world because you just…heartbreak is going to make you depressed. It’s like you’re mourning the loss of somebody that is alive that you want to reach out to but you can’t because they don’t want you in their life it just doesn’t work out for whatever reason it’s just still going to break your heart. And I feel like I’ve been properly heartbroken four times in my life by people that I loved so unconditionally and some were friends, some were people that I loved romantically everything, whatever. My friend Nick always tells me, he’s like, “Just get over it” Like, he’s like, “it sucks, but it’s not going to last forever” and I think it’s the same thing like when you’re depressed you feel like you’re going to be in this black hole forever and ever, but it’s like I’m still heartbroken. I’m still heartbroken, like there’s specifically like one friend that absolutely shattered me that I don’t know when I’m going to recover from it. I’m still like upset. But it’s like, what else are you going to do? Like, I don’t know. It sucks. It’s going to hurt. It’s going to hurt more than other people, but you know it’s life, I guess. I think that’s the best way to accept anything that’s sad. It’s just, it’s life. “How do you confront people when they say it’s trendy to have a mental illness?” When people try to make mental health trendy, it’s completely disrespectful because it would be like making diabetes trendy like everyone that has an illness doesn’t want it and I think if you’re romanticizing it, it might show that you do have a mental illness and you’re trying to kind of identify yourself through that, but it also, for people that don’t have it, people that are like, “Oh, I have to do this”, “I have to do that”, it’s like, you know there’s so many of us that actually really do suffer with that and that’s not okay. And, for example, I was at a Halloween party yesterday and somebody had like a psych ward outfit on and I was like, that’s just completely disrespectful to the people that have actually been there and know what it’s like. and you’re just like adding to the stigma of people being crazy when they’re not. They just have an illness. I kind of don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want to cry on camera. I’m just like so in a mood, and I don’t want to talk to people. Yeah, I think this is probably my last video about all this. I said that last time, but I think for a while, this is the last one. I’ll probably make a video about dyslexia in the future. And then, I don’t know, if you guys have any other questions later, I’ll probably make one in a couple of months. probably around like Mental Health Awareness Month. So, um, yeah, let’s break the stigma. Let’s be kind to each-other, because you never know what that person’s going through that day. And um, yeah, if you guys want to try to get some makeup, there’s a giveaway. And I’ll be back with happier videos next week if you guys want to subscribe, I would love to have you back. And, until next week. Bye!

100 thoughts on “coping with a mental illness: boyfriends, medications, school | Q&A | Alexa Losey

  1. Hi! I'm not really sure what I have or if it's even a big issue but I've been getting really anxious and stressed about things that don't matter anymore. Sometimes I get weird episodes where I can't calm down, and my hearing gets fuzzy like I'm underwater, and my entire body starts to buzz especially around my face. Is this anxiety? I don't want to self diagnose but I've talked to my friends and family and they don't get this. I appreciate all of you for listening, much love to you guys <3

  2. "I kinda dont want to do this anymore" me 75% of the time i start to film a video hahaha ive made some videos about mental illness and i love the feedback and i love helping people but it takes a lot out of you!! you've been so amazing. you've helped me so much. can't wait to see what you put out next, no matter the content 🙂

  3. I needed this video, I'm 19 and never had a boyfriend because I'm embarrassed of my mental illness.

  4. are you ok with saying what medication you're on? I have depression and anxiety and I've been on zoloft since this summer and didn't really see many significant results, what has been your experience on medication so far? if you aren't comfortable answering its totally fine! I'm so happy to see you open up about this and destigmatize (idk if thats a word) mental illness

  5. You wouldn't believe how many people make fun of diabetes, so to have both mental illness and type 1 diabetes- thank you for saying that… even if it was just a random disease you could think of at the moment! x

  6. Being heart broken+depressed+anxiety+panic attacks = worst combo ever. Time was my best friend. Meditating and concentrating on the things that really matter and make you feel happy are the most important things. I'm glad that you don't make only happy videos, because this is the real you. And life isn't always sunshine and happiness. Love you for your honesty

  7. Thank you Alexa. I recently found out that I have been suffering from depression and its really comforting to hear the raw truth about the issues that hit me in the face everyday. x

  8. Girl. I feel for you. I can relate to many of the things you've been talking about recently and really appreciate you sharing some of your story. It can be really hard to open up and talk about mental illness (especially on a public platform) so I just wanted to say thank you. I know these videos are going to help a lot of people feel less alone. Sending you a big virtual hug! <3

  9. Hii Alexa I've seen your videos and I totally understand, maybe you can erase arch about Kabbalah, check their site and take some classes maybe that will help you in this bad days, that helped me ly💓 hope you're okay

  10. Thank you so much for your raw honestly and I can truly say that being kind to everyone around you is so, so important due to the fact that it could be a tragic day and your kindness can uplift that. Every single month I'm experiencing some sort of death anniversary yet I have to go on with my day because of school and work, but I guarantee the people who go out of their way to be nice to me, make the day much less tragic.

  11. Thank you so much for your raw honestly and I can truly say that being kind to everyone around you is so, so important due to the fact that it could be a tragic day and your kindness can uplift that. Every single month I'm experiencing some sort of death anniversary yet I have to go on with my day because of school and work, but I guarantee the people who go out of their way to be nice to me, make the day much less tragic.

  12. You're such an inspiration, so thank you so much for making these videos. You're helping out so many people, including me. So thank you so much❤

  13. Taking care of yourself and mental health really is a full time job.. everyone is always like why are you so tired all of the time?? Like sorry I'm exhausted dealing with my mental illness and trying to function somewhat normally 😒

  14. I was just diagnosed with MS two weeks ago and I haven't been able to work so I've had no money to get new makeup for myself so this is really exciting😻😻😻

  15. i feel the same. people just feel the need to make a joke out of mental illness, and it just shatters me. its so insensitive. Luvvv you alexa ❤️

  16. Hi Alexa! I started watching a couple of your videos last week and I really like your content! Thank you for sharing your story!

  17. just a little fyi (not to be rude) but its not a "learning disability pass" its call an IEP or individual education plan

  18. I have a mental illness and I'm just learning how to deal with it and I really thank you for speaking about this because I needed to see that I'm not the only one going through it

  19. Just wanna say, I've been watching you for years, and seeing you come out with this is so inspiring. I know the journey isn't over, but seeing what a kind heart and strong soul you have is really encouraging and beautiful. You have been so open with us and I know that all of your subscribers really appreciate that. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a while, and the question concerning being heartbroken with depression really hit home. Thank you for making these videos. It's so amazing to hear your advice and your experiences. And to see the fact that you aren't trying to pretend that you're okay is incredibly strong as well. So thanks, pretty lady. We can do this. <3

  20. I think that you've been gifted with the ability to open up that discussion. Please don't dislike that that's who you've become as a creator for now. It has helped a lot of people. Thank you.

  21. These videos have really helped me get help. After watching your first mental health video I got help
    For my suicidal thoughts, thank you so much

  22. I'll pray for you Alexa regardless if you aren't religious, no person should be living in pain I just hope my prayers towards you will make a difference or a life change, I once was struggling with a mental illness called bipolar and anxiety, I'm just thankful im not back to that dark room again which I thank God. Again I just hope you'll feel so much better.

  23. I love your eyes!! that sounds weird but the color of your eyes and your natural makeup is amazing and gorgeous, I know this is off what the videos about but I just need to pont that out. and you are amazing and gorgeous just your amazing!😘😜😎😍💕❤

  24. Great that you're opening up and it will probably help others going through the same thing. Man sad I missed this great giveaway.

  25. This is so incredible that you r brave enough to share this w the world! I have an illness as well ! Not many people know what it is!

  26. I battled depression and still deal with anxiety… so watching you talk so freely about this is really comforting

  27. I've been through a shit ton in the last week including an overdose suicide attempt that lead me to the hospital, getting diagnosed with depression, and my parents trying to understand why i self harm. listening to your story's and how you deal with your problems has made it so much easier for me, knowing i can hopefully get though this eventually. <3

  28. Heartbreak doesn't just magically go away, but I've learned that with time it gets better, and it's so important to realize that you're never alone<3

  29. This video was absolutely inspiring to watch, I deal with depression and anxiety and I've gone back and forth between going on medication or staying away from it. It gets to where I have to just walk out of class or just skip school altogether. I can't go to certain events that I love, concerts and festivals are my absolute favorite but I get to the point where I can't breathe. I also recently went through a break up with my boyfriend of three years and it was the most painful thing I could have gone through, it's been 6 months and it still hurts me. You are an inspiration to m, thank you for being so open because you being open about something that's really hard to do so has helped me. Thank you Alexa.

  30. check out the Linden Technique. Only thing that CURES people from mental conditions. And it's just that, a condition (temporary). Worked for me.

  31. this video is really awesome, i love when people are honest and raw this way, it makes me feel not alone with my struggles. thank you for that.

  32. I low key wanna get admitted to a mental hospital because I've been feeling so bad lately but after telling my parents about how I was they said plz don't cause anymore problems cause we have things to do and don't have time to deal with things like this so idk what to do

  33. Medication has helped me SO MUCH with my anxiety and depression. I used to be so anti-medication but I have found that it just makes coping with life so much easier

  34. Yo lo vi en español y me parece que estàs incomoda con el tema , el tema de la medicaciòn es que debe adecuarse a las horas porque sino te da sueño. la ansiedad es totalmente incomoda, quiero mi pase!!!
    Respeto al estigma . claro que lo es !!
    Màs feo es recaer.
    Nunca dejes tus pastillas
    Y no te olvides de Dios.

  35. for a few weeks once i was hearing like my mind calling me stupid, if i complained it would become much worse, visits to monasteries and asking if they could pray for me seemed to work almost miraculously, particularly with hearing demons goading me they went instantly and never came back

  36. I might have to check into a mental hospital myself .. my brains fried from all the meds , drugs and drinking!! I'm 24 & I can't snap back fully like I used too. I'm living in the past cannot be present & I don't feel in my body and I over think everything I'm shutting down . I over think things that once made me happy because of a thought I made up . I can't enjoy anything because of this and I don not know what's going on with me but my brain feels like it's declining the pscripts aren't even working any more … feeling hopeless I stopped smoking weed bc it made me paranoid and the negative thoughts I can't stop ..

  37. Jesus loves you he died for you and the bible says that if you will believe in Jesus you will be saved and have everlasting life. get to know Jesus he loves you so much. Jesus is the answer, not suicide

  38. I love this listening to others experiences with mental illness. We really all are in this together.

    I recently uploaded a video on depression and how I work through it! If anyone is interested in checking it out, please comment down below so I can respond!

  39. Every video I watch of you, brightens my day. Honestly don't know what I'd do without these videos. You have changed my life and I just found you the other day. Absolutely love you.

  40. This was really hard for me to watch because I've never related to anyone more especially when you said you're just in a mood and don't feel like doing anything. Ily thank you for this

  41. Alexa I feel like I relate to you a lot. I’ve been through a lot of the same things bar a few. Stay strong I know this video is from like a year ago but u should be so proud of how far you’ve come

  42. I went through a few of your videos talking about depression, but I don't think I've heard you addressing the origin of your depression.. is there not one? Or maybe you had already addressed it somewhere but I didn't see

  43. What kind of therapist do you have that allows you to flexibly see them more than once per week? Most therapists I know are very busy and have a hard time seeing patients every week. Where did you get your therapist?

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