ALL PSYCHOLOGISTS should be in THERAPY – Kati Morton on mental health university career treatment


Hey everybody! Today’s question actually comes from the website And if you haven’t hopped over to katimorton.com you should check it out, There are not only free workbooks and free worksheets available to print and use on your own, But there are also a ton of people on there helping support each other in the chat, so I would check it out. But today’s question is actually kind of interesting, so let’s get into it. “Hey Kati! I am one semester away from graduating with a B.S. in psychology “And I will hopefully be attending graduate school to become a therapist. “I have heard from you and several other professionals that it is critical that therapists participate in therapy themselves” – It really is. “As a clinician, what is this experience like? “Since you know therapy so well, is it difficult to submit to the process as a client? “Is it easy for someone in this position to be overcritical of their therapist or overanalyze themselves? “On the flip side of this question, if you’ve ever had another therapist as your client, “How did that impact your approach? “I would greatly appreciate sharing any insights you may have.” Now first I wanna say that it is imperative, I think, that if you are a therapist, that you are in therapy yourself. Because, in all truth – Something that I never really talked about, I guess, is that When I was first a therapist, I found it extremely exhausting. I would work all day in the clinic – And it wasn’t like one-on-one sessions, even, I just ran groups and only had like, two sessions And I was just wiped. My body was so worn out, it was almost like I wasn’t – It’s like I was training for something, and I hadn’t worked that muscle before, and I was just completely fatigued. And so I would come home, I’d get off at like 4, And I would literally take a two and a half hour nap. And then I’d get up, have dinner and interact with my friends, But before that, I really just couldn’t, I would be so wiped, so I needed the nap. So I think that there’s something important to be said about how taxing therapy can be on us. Therefore, if we are offering therapy to others, we need to get therapy ourselves. And I will say that I do – When I was in school, I was much more critical of my therapist. And it’s actually funny, and I think it has something to do for me with the fact that I was changing therapists at the time. My original therapist, Rebecca, who was the one I saw for years, and helped me deal with the stuff with my dad passing away, And then it was honestly – Like a month after he passed, she retired. And so I was left looking for someone and I was kind of a vulnerable position, And I saw someone that I didn’t really like and didn’t click with, and I was hypercritical of him. First of all, it was a guy, and I prefer women – With all that being said, I would say for me, I was much more critical of my therapist when I was actually in school. Because every day, all day, I’m just hearing about therapy stuff. I’m talking about all the different strategies and different techniques, And so I’m much more hyperaware of what’s going on. As someone out of school who still practices, I actually don’t find myself being that critical. One thing that I do know, because I do have a few clients who are studying to be psychologists or MFTs, LCSWs, I don’t explain it as much as I used to. Someone on the website had commented and said that She could see that switch in her therapist. And I don’t explain certain terms or certain feelings in the way that I may initially. Like a lot of times, there are terms – And you guys know this, that I’ll use a term and then I’ll say, “Oh, just so you know, that means blank-blank-blank….” I’ll assume that they know, and I might even check – “And you’ve heard that, right?” “You know what I’m talking about?” And they’ll say, “Yeah,” And so I won’t beat around the bush Or go describing a situation, I’ll just tell it to them straight and know that they understand that term And that I don’t have to define it in some other way to make it make sense. Does that make sense at all? Because it’s like we’re already speaking the same language. All of the acronyms that I use, all of the weird, bizarre therapy terms that we use, Even like a word like, “countertransference”, I wouldn’t have to explain what that is. But, to the normal person who’s not in a therapy program, they wouldn’t know what that means, and I would have to explain it. And so that’s really the only shift that I take with my clients, ’cause I don’t really explain things – I explain them more abruptly and using the therapy terms – I don’t beat around the bush. And lastly, like I was saying before, now that I’m out of school I find that I’m less critical of my therapist and the whole therapy process But I will say that I do – I am better at finding the right therapist for me. Knowing the right techniques and the type of therapy that I prefer, because everybody’s different. I also know that I have to see a woman, it just feels more comfortable for me, she needs to be older than me, There are a lot of things that I’ve learned through my own therapy process. And, being a therapist myself, I’ve known how important it is for us to feel that intense connection with our therapist And really feel that they get us. And so I’ve really become quite good at picking out the therapist for me And knowing the type of therapy that I like to engage in, because I’ve tried various ones. So would encourage you – If you’re in school to become a therapist, and they’re recommending that you get into personal therapy, And you’ve never been and you’re really nervous, Try out a bunch of different types if you can. Unless you’re working on one specific issue and you need to keep the longevity of the relationship, I think it’s beneficial to know – What CBT looks like, what does just regular talk therapy or psychodynamic therapy, What about DBT, do you have that available? Trying out a couple. Because every type of therapy and every therapist is gonna be different, And I think it’s important for us to get a varied scope of it so that we can understand what’s best for us And maybe, it might even change the way that you practice, Because I find that I enjoy the type of therapy that I actually practice with my clients. And so it’s just been giving me another level of insight into the therapy process as a whole. I hope that was interesting and helpful. I know that there’s a lot of questions and a lot of you are in programs to become a therapist yourself And so leave in the comments what your thoughts about this are. That’s just my personal experience, I’m just pulling from the things that I’ve done in my life and in my own therapy treatment planning, And what’s worked and what hasn’t worked, and what I’ve noticed. So let us know, give it a thumbs up if you liked this, and I will see you next time. Bye!

77 thoughts on “ALL PSYCHOLOGISTS should be in THERAPY – Kati Morton on mental health university career treatment

  1. I love when I forget that Kati makes videos on Thursdays and then I get a notification that there's a new video! Love you Kati! <3

  2. I have a question. I have been depressed for a long time. I feel like I've had crippling anxiety which drives my depression deeper. I have never been diagnosed, does this mean I don't have a real mental illness or that I am just over reacting?

  3. I'm not seeing a therapist until January 🙁 How can I wait/cope until that time? 🙁

    Also, my depression gets very bad specifically in the Summer, have you ever had any clients that have the same problem?

    Thank you so much for your videos! They help a lot! 🙂

  4. hey kati, thanks so much for this video! i'm currently in my final year of a BSW program, and i've found it really useful to be in therapy throughout. Not only for my own self-care, but for my future practice!

    (ps. there are a few moments in this video where it seems like you intended to cut parts out, you repeated the sentences over again, but they were still included)

  5. I'm studying to be a doctor and have always wanted to become a psychiatrist, but when I first started therapy (and for a long time after) I was actually convinced that the fact that I needed therapy was proof that I could never be a therapist. But now that I am doing my psychiatry rotation I can tell that having therapy has actually helped me become a better doctor. I'm more in tune with patients, noticing small reactions and asking them about it, making them feel more comfortable when they are coming in for the first time, stuff like that. Because I've been through it as well.
    I know that here in the Netherlands you're actually required during your residency years to go into therapy just to experience it and stuff, I don't know if that's the case for other therapists as well.

  6. WOOPS!!!!! Forgot to cut out a few flubs and misspellings in this video! Enjoy the imperfections in life 🙂 It's a process, not perfection! Did anyone notice, I sound kind of like a Minion when I make mistakes?

  7. I like the "flubs", Kati! I think you should keep them in more often. They help remind us that we're all human…also they definitely made me giggle. (: Quick question… could you describe hyper and hypo arousal? My therapist keeps telling me to try to be aware of them and has explained it a few times, but I'm not quite sure I understand. Are they linked to PTSD and or sexual abuse? Thanks!!! (:

  8. Last night, I looked up reasons to not self harm, and your website was the first link to come up! You are changing this world Kati!

  9. I am glad that you have addressed this with your viewers. I got my degree in psych 13 years ago and worked in substance abuse counseling. For a very long time I tried to convince myself that because of my studies and work in mental health that I could manage things on my own despite knowing the benefits of being in some type of program. I was obviously wrong. I think that it is easier to look at someone else's situation and be able to discuss and work through various issues with them but that introspection of one's self is sometimes difficult because we are only looking at it from our own point of view. It took me a long time to finally realize that I wasn't managing things as well as I thought I should be and the stress in my personal life and professional life finally took its toll. So, I would hope that anyone else considering going into the mental health field that they too consider building a proper support group and find someone to talk about issues that come up in their own life. It is easy to know the path, but actually walking down it yourself may be harder especially if you try to justify why it is not necessary as I did for so many years.

    I am glad that I came across your site as I have been watching your videos for a couple months now. This is the first time I've responded though. Thanks for all you do especially in providing a forum for information and discussion of these topics. I am sure many, including myself, benefit from what you share. Cheers.

  10. I'm currently in therapy to treat my depression+anxiety, and I will start psychology next year. I'm glad I did this because I've learned so many things already and the fact that I've got a mental illness shouldn't stop me from helping others, I plan to continue working on myself, bettering myself, and I think therapists are human too so requiring therapy themselves is completely okay and that's a great way to improve in every aspect

  11. This is a great video thank you Kati!!!! Little update cause you've helped me a lot with this whole process: I started IOP on Tuesday! They moved me to the eating disorder kids program instead of OCD /anxiety adult program and that's been going ok! I was really worried I wouldn't like the therapist I got there because I really really liked my therapist I was seeing outside the program but I actually love her!!!!! she's pushing me already and the program is A LOT of exposure response prevention which is REALLY REALLY STRESSFUL AND EXHAUSTING! all ive done so far is attempt to introduce myself to 2 people around the clinic that I don't know yet but even that was a lot and it took a bit for me to chill out after! It's all super scary and i have a long long long ways to go but I'm really glad I have such a good therapist cause won't let me get away with shit haha! Thank you for helping me be more comfortable with the decision to go to IOP! I'm really excited to start feeling better 🙂

  12. I saw your snapchat, I can't watch the live stream because 6:30 your time is 2:30 am my time! Argh! Next time for sure!

  13. I can't download the SH workbook because it's a PDF file and my computer is old 🙁 is there any way you could make it a word document that you can send through email? Thanks!

  14. Great video Kati. As for myself, I hope to be a LCSW one day. Although I intuited that therapists need therapy, I always was self-critical of the thought that if I have issues as a practicing therapist I should not even be practicing it. One thing that caught my attention was when you mentioned that, as a female, you prefer female therapists. Do you think one will get more out of therapy and/or is it more beneficial if one chooses to go with a therapist of one's own gender? Although I have a great female therapist, as a male, I feel like because she is a female, she goes too easy on me. I ponder if I will get more out of a male therapist because he will be more easy to relate in terms of male issues. I tend to struggle feeling defective because, at the moment, I feel like i'm not living up to the archetypal traditional western male character traits, mindsets and markers out what it is to be a man. I guess I'm curious what a male therapist would say about that since, it is possible at times, he might have felt subject to those pressures himself. Maybe it's just me being hard on myself and a glutton for punishment?
    Thanks. Keep doing you! 🙂

  15. Thank you for making your videos! I'm patiently (well impatiently lol) waiting for a chronic pain video. I think you would be a wonderful person to put that information out there since you do seems so sincere and caring for your kinions! I tried to have my question answered in yesterday's live stream, but I figured I'd try it here too. If you had a patient on a c2 (narcotic) medication for pain management, and they had never abused the drug or shown signs of addiction would you view or judge them if the showed up to a session and you could tell they had taken that medication? I get scared to take my Percocet before my session because I don't want my T to look down poorly on me for it. I'd really appreciate any insight you could give, or if you could even include this in the chronic pain video. Thank you so much for being a wonders resource, it means more than you'll ever know. -Heather or @IC_spoonie

  16. Kati- I'm so happy you answered this! I asked almost the same question on your website about a week ago. Sending love your way 🙂 -Kati

  17. My psychologist told me during my first time in session with her that she has been on the client's seat so that she knows well that it can be hard to open ourselves to someone we don't know. I was at first wondering what she could have talked about and if she talked back more quickly and not being trapped in silence like I am with her. Like since she is herself a therapist she might know how to say things in therapy with her own therapist.

  18. This is a super interesting topic and I'm glad you brought it up! I started therapy before I knew I was going into the social work program here at school (it was part of the reason I changed majors, actually), but I can TOTALLY see how it's beneficial, especially while you're going through and learning the material as a student. I'm in the first year of my program, third year of college, and it's been really interesting to get to know my peers and go through this super big learning curve with them the last few months. It's become pretty painfully obvious already that there are lots of things, though independent and unique to the individual, that we all need to work on.

    During my orientation, the program director said something along the lines of, "Everyone is here for a reason. And that's not to suggest everyone has an extensive trauma history, though some of you might. But something has happened in your life, you've seen something or been part of something that has changed you and made you a very special kind of aware. We can't teach that. It's just who you are."

    That's sort of rambly and seems off topic, but what I've noticed in getting to know my classmates is that most of us ARE there for a reason, and usually that reason is intense and heavy. Not always, but the majority of the time that's the case. Sometimes I worry that going through a social work program might be triggering or upsetting for some, or ruffle up the dust that's settled in someone else's history. And the reality is, it can. But it's also an amazing opportunity for growth and self discovery, and I believe that's best aided by therapy. I might be biased because I loooove my therapist, but yeah.

    Beyond the role of student, though, I think it's really beneficial as practitioners to have at least one relationship where you DON'T have to carry any kind of weight and where the focus is all on your health, wellbeing, and feelings. It's such a relief.

    I could talk for hours about this!!! Thanks for the video, Kati 🙂

  19. I totally agree. I'm an LCSW and I feel that it's important to see a therapist to process the stress of my work/life balance.

  20. 2 and a half hours sleep – that was me just now. I just had a trans nightmare – I was tired in the evening, so went to bed, but set my alarm, so I woke up two hours after going to bed. After being awoken I drifted off again for another 20 minutes and had this dream (sigh..); I was walking on my own in what appeared to be my old home town. I came across boys from my old school – trouble makers, which was most of them. I said hello and everything but didn’t want to be around them so made my excuses and got away from them – It was like engaging with a pack of hyenas… I didn’t want to give them the impression I was lunch. I must have been a teenager of school age in this dream. I found myself in a big building decorated like your average school – vinyl flooring and all the rest of it (this is common in my dreams – could be an old shared house too)… but eventually made my way out – I’m sure it was daylight before but now it is night time… I can’t see clearly because of the all the car headlights (there's a scene like this in Ghost in the Shell of a naked female cyborg getting hit by a car). It appeared to be the daytime once again and I was walking near some train tracks, I came across the same boys from before and got roped into hopping about the train tracks. “When is this going to be over?” I think to myself constantly. Then a black european style train with a red stripe and sloping front came along – we pulled ourselves into the shrubbery on either side but the driver managed to see us and amazingly actually stopped the train dead right where we were and got out to lecture us (my dad is a train enthusiast who complains a lot)… as this happened the day seemed to turn to night. In the commotion I managed to climb up a bank and find a river (this scene is also similar to near where I used to live) – I just wanted to get away from those boys (I would be in conflicts in dreams sometimes)…   I found a piece of wood (that appeared to be just a door stop LOL – I do have to keep removing and replacing a doorstop to my room – though that is black rubber… the one in the dream was just made of wood and painted white) and managed to kneel on that while I treid to ride the river (this feature of having to balance on really small things like a rediculousy tniy bike for example that hardly works seems common in my dreams). It appeared to by daylight again. The river was moving fairly fast but wasn’t constant in its depth or direction (in other dreams it has been a road, or a train line or whatever) – sometimes I would literally be pushing myself over shale while at other times I was really unsure which direction I should take (other times I would be trying to fly or levitate with great effort in dreams). I would think I meet people who could help me show the way but they always appeared to reply in senseless song. I seemed to keep getting caught in a loop. My arms were getting really tired and I was just starting to feel more and more mentally exhausted (exhaustion is common feature of dreams). Days and nights just went one after the other until I was no longer aware of if it was day or night. (this was fairly new… I think?) Eventually I found myself looking at a plastic model through a glass case of the route I had been trying to take – I was in somekind of reception… there were wooden floors, walls and ceiling, and it was painted red and white in the style of a mid-western American barn (I think this is to do with social media – advice form my own country of england is either really not very good compared to the USA or things are just better in the USA than in england). I appeared to be delirious – I reached a dead end…   it looked like a way out down some stairs through a long alcove, but the stairs had been boarded over. A tall trim old man in a white shirt (I think this was my doctor) was trying to get my attention – “where are you going?” he asked. Even though he came across as friendly he made me panic and I didn’t stop. Carrying on I said almost to myself “I’m trying to get to England”. “But you’re in New England” he said. “No.. I’m trying to get home in England, the old England”. I just carried on into this dead end. I Appeared to be a girl with long blonde hair wearing a simple tattered looking white dress/under dress. The man sounded concerned and made murmurings to other people. The next thing I know that man is right up near me as I am hundled in a corner – I feel his body right near mine with his hand moving forward near my stomach. I feel so uneasy and so on edge I have a panic attack – doing a whimper as though feeling threatened as I feel his hand touch me. Then I woke up. I have previously woken up from similar dreams like that, even dreams of giving brith sometimes. Yep that’s my life at the moment – boring huh? 😛 I have financial (like I could loose my bank account) and medical worries at the moment.

  21. Hey Kati! I was curious if you had ever seen Tennessee Senate Bill 1556/ House Bill 1840? I'm curious of your opinion on it (good or bad)? There are other states that have similar laws but I have really only looked at the one in my state for my essay. Thanks!

  22. hi can you do some challenge vids that are more fun as well as the normal weekly ones? a bit like the cinnamon challenge you did or a singing/acting one. thank you xx

  23. I found this video so refreshing! I know that I would feel so much more comfortable in going to therapy if I knew my therapist was going to or has been to therapy themselves. I think that it makes such a difference when I therapist can completely relate to their clients and understand the anxiety that comes with opening up to a complete stranger through personal experience.
    #katiFAQ what are your thoughts on a client purchasing and reading the DSM? Would this help to learn and understand our own issues or just confuse us even more?
    Love love love what you do 🙂 xox

  24. I had to terminate my therapy recently because my therapist was not that great. She never remembered anything about me, I had to introduce a person in my life to her many times because she never remembered who was who, I had to tell her the same story three times because she never remembered, she never privided any helpful commentary, she just repeated what I already knew for $30 an hour, she also never offered any kind of kind words or diplayed empathy of any kind. I pointed out my grievances to her four times on four different sessions and each time she would just say that apparently I am incapable of accepting her help and she got visibly frustrated with me (rolled her eyes, raised her voice etc.) and when I pointed that out she said I was projecting my own frustration on her. Which, even if that's true, doesn't explain why she never even attempted to change her methods even a little bit. I even asked her if maybe I could use another therapeutic method more (she was a psychodynamic therapist), and she just dryly said that I should trust that she knows what's best for me.
    My question is: how could I have solved this problem earlier / better? I kept thinking that if I just communicate clearly what I need, I would get it, but apparently it doesn't work that way.

  25. What would you do if you are telling your theripst something you thought about doing but you didn't..(bad coping skill) and instead of talking to about why you were thinking about it they decided to scold you and make you feel worse then how you felt going into a session….. her doing that triggered me and when I went home pushed me off the deep end. how do you tell them it hurt and really affected you? ( not good with conflict.)

  26. Can you please explain the difference between Therapists, Psychologists, psychiatrists… etc? I always get really confused!

  27. In the old days they said : You need too be crazy too "now" the crazy, partly true but like a firefighter or a policeman you encounter the bad side off ppl sometimes and if you don't find a way too protect yourself it will affect you on the long run.
    And trying too open doors in the brain off somebody can be very tiring especially if they don't want to open it, then you have too wait until something happens in their life which unlocks that door, until this happens the patient wil keep saying : i can't talk when i'm at my therapist, i don't know what's blocking me. But they do make a video about it and dont tell us everything but we no more than the therapist.Will we ever be able too "read" a brain i dont know :-).

  28. Hi kati im abit worryed about my feelings at the moment i dont seem to be afrade of death when ever i have suicideal thoughts it seems to make me happy of thoults of suicied and my plans whats you thoults on it☹️☹️

  29. Hey Kati! I've recently wanted to subscribe to one of your workbooks but never received an e-mail? Hope you can help me out on that one…. I love your videos and I think you are doing an incredible job! 😀👍🏻

  30. So I always thought I had BED, but I started seeing a new therapist and she diagnosed me with Bulimia since I binge then over exercise and starve. Well since she told me bulimia I decided I can start purging by vomiting too. Do therapist need to tell the client if the diagnosis changes?

  31. I have severe attachment to female teachers etc, and I don't know why 🙁 and I have like extreme ups and downs and I cut often and idk what to do anymore, I just want to give up 🙁 anyway I loved your video and I go to your videos before I cut to help💘💘💘

  32. Hey kati do you think maybe you could do a video on what to do if one of your friends (or rather acquaintance's) is triggering you with there issues but they need your support? Like either how to kindly tell them hey your triggering me while keeping in mind how they need you, or how to deal with when they tell you something or are upset about something and are triggering you? I'm sorry if this was confusing, but thank you so much. And by the way I love your videos and I find them super helpful!

  33. This video is awesome, Kati! With me wanting to become a licensed Clinical Psychologist (PsyD program), this video was extremely interesting and useful to me. I realize I am already used to therapy personally as I go for some of my mental illness problems. Now, I do have a question I would like answered. I am at Friends University in Wichita, KS getting my BS in psychology. I am in the psychology club there. Would it be possible for you to visit and talk to us about mental health as well as mental illness? I would really appreciate it, and not everyone in the psychology club is psych major. I think it would help spread the word about mental health. To help others. Just let me know. You can message me on twitter at @Lifeofflowers12 or facebook. On facebook, I am Katie Farra. My picture says keep calm because I am a psychology student. If needed, I can send my email to you some way. Just let me know! I really hope you can find the time to do this. It would be nice for me and the other students who either need to know about mental health, or those who are learning to be therapists one day. Thank you! Love your videos. Please keep going!

  34. It's funny that you mention the whole "defining terms" thing, where you didn't have to define them so much when you were talking with people who already knew the terms. Thing is, my therapist has been talking about my potential for an attachment disorder, and it made me feel so bad, like I had a problem detaching. But then I brought it up, and she ended up having to explain it to me. Having that explanation made me feel SO MUCH BETTER, knowing that it wasn't me having a problem, but that there just wasn't proper attachment when I was young. It was so reassuring – and so crucial that I brought it up. My therapist knows that I am smart, so it meant that when I didn't know, I had to say something.

    IDK if that really applies much to the topic at hand, but I guess I needed to get that out there . . .

  35. I have been so lucky with my counselor. I've had the same one for just over 13 years. I would not be where I am today if it was not for him.

  36. #KatiFAQ hey, I think this is a very common question. I have an eating disorder and have been in treatment (currently on a break because I moved). Now in my new school I found a very good friend, but she is veeery triggering to me because she continiously talks about weight and how she thinks she needs to lose some and she is engaging in bad behavior like restricting, trying to make others eat so she feels better about herself and all that stuff. I have mentioned to her before that I "used to" have an eating disorder and I felt that her behavior was not very healthy but she said it is normal to have something you don't like about yourself. So typical denial. I don't think she has an eating disorder 'yet' , but she could get triggered into one, is what I think. I like her and I don't want to stop hanging out with her, also I don't necessarily want her to know that I still have an eating disorder.(I generally just told very very few people and I just don't want people here at the new place to know) How can I deal with this?

  37. i thought this was so interesting kati. do u think it would be the same in the UK because i think for adult mental health you only get a limited amount of sessions of therapy so it is not the same as us i don't think i don't even know .

  38. Sometimes I wonder if learning advanced subjects such psychology and sociology is dangerous. It certainly changes you.

  39. I'm a therapist in therapy, I started going way before I became a therapist though 😉 but it's been really helpful for my learning process and it's still useful for me when I'm looking for guidance and when dealing with difficult situations at work (since I'm still in the long long long process of internship).

  40. I'm studying psychology right now and mainly follow your channel because I find it so interesting to hear from an experienced therapist about it, and to hear just different views, even though a lot of the educational videos aren't necessarily the content I would apply to for myself.
    So I really enjoyed this video and found it very interesting! In Germany we study five years to get the Master of Psychology, and after that can take courses for the different therapy "kinds"? like, CBT, psychoanalysis, etc. In that process of the training, at least for CBT, there is personal therapy included, that is mandatory. But as far as I know it is not common for therapists who are already in their job to just have a therapist always by their side. Many do supervision on a regular basis and that is highly recommended to us, but therapy here seems very event based. Our insurance system also covers therapy only for a certain diagnosis and then only up to a certain number of sessions, so if you "don't have anything", you can't really get therapy, unless you have a lot of money to pay for it by yourself.
    What do you think about this? I feel like I would definitely want to do supervision once I am in my job, and I hope I would actually do take therapy sessions for myself if I find myself struggling to cope with something, but having permanent therapy without specific issues hasn't ever been in my picture.
    Would love to hear your thoughts about that!

  41. Hey, katie I really need some help, I'm dealing with an emotionally abusive mom and I don't know to report about it most of relatives are aware of but I just don't know how I make it stop please I would love to not come home every night and cry myself to sleep every time I see her. If you see this please respond I need away of help

  42. I'm in an MFT program, have just started practicum, and I'm in personal therapy. I don't find myself being critical of my therapist, for me she is another example of a good therapist. Like you, she doesn't explain terms because I know the drill. Also, we can really talk about what is working and what isn't on a different level.

  43. I would really appreciate you doing a video about miscarriage/still birth/ infertiity and grieving.
    I have gone through seven miscarriages; we tried IVF and our twins died and had to have an extraction and a D and C at seven months. I was told that I could not try to become pregnant because of my multiple handicaps and that my uterus was now misshapen because the IVF doctor that took out the eggs had torn a hole in my uterus starting at 4mm and by the time of surgery 36 mm of scar tissue. That is why our twins died.
    The day after I had my extraction and D and C my husband's phone was just weird and had to go get it fixed. I helped an elderly woman that asked if we had kids and I said "no". She said you are still young, you dont have to worry. I broke down screaming and crying.
    I would like to hear your advice on how to deal with grief, people's words (even though I know they can't know) and how to find yourself again and move on. Thank you

  44. thx for this ha bisky vid and i have a puppy that keeps stealing all of the blankies i have 5-10 blankies on the bed and he thinks they are all his

    he is so adorable i cant get mad at him but then he starts to over heat as well and sometimes gets mad when i want to take them off of him

  45. What about working in an industry where we aren't therapists but we are talking to people about personal things? I work as a nutritionist in low income communities but I hear a lot about domestic violence, family and friends passing away, etc. Not everything is trauma heavy, and many things hare happy but I deal a lot with the other things. Sometimes I am helping contact homeless shelters, domestic violence shelters, children with illness, etc.

  46. It's funny that you say that you were more critical of therapists when you were in school, because I'm TOTALLY finding that with myself, too. I'm always trying to figure out which theory they're pulling from or sometimes I'll realize they're using MI with me. I'm glad to hear that this might go away when I'm not a student anymore!

  47. Hey Kati… Omg, this is something that I was ranting about to a therapist friend recently. Here in Canada, psychologists are not required to have their own therapy to graduate, while it is mandatory for a psychotherapist, like myself.

    I think that every therapist needs to get his/her own therapy for 3 main reasons –
    – Work through their issues in advance, to reduce counter-transference and burn out
    – Trying out techniques as a client and going through the process as a client increases our ability to improvise with the techniques better, as we "get it" at a deeper level
    – I think having been a long term therapy client (my school mandated 100 hours of personal therapy) really improved my rapport building skills with my own clients, as I could better empathize with them and be aware of common therapy pitfalls.

    I also agree with you that I was more critical of my therapist, during school, when I was an upstart punk. My internship was a humbling experience, that made me see and respect my own therapist from a different perspective.

    I have been on a therapy break for about year and will be starting with a social worker in February, who brings an eclectic brand of holistic and body psychotherapy (my kind of therapy).

    PS – your glitches and spelling mistakes on a video about therapists seeking therapy, makes it more poignant and human 🙂 Cheers…

  48. There are some that do training seminars at workplaces and are knowledgeable with what they talk about, but you can still tell that there are some underlying issues that they are dealing with. They will give themselves away without even realizing it. There was one that did a training seminar at my workplace yesterday, and I noticed it with her & at times she would show jealousy or get a kick out of putting someone on the spot. At some point, she even made assumptions. She also made a comment about her weight by saying this: "You know, if I wasn't so fat, I would be eating whatever I want." I feel like some Psychologists put on a mask like as if everything is ok, when its not, and some of us can pick up on something being off.

  49. Kati, thank you so much for your warm and supportive videos. It just feels good watching them. My therapist has been away for a couple of weeks, I've found your videos during this time and I feel optimistic and somehow centred after watching a few each day.

  50. I feel like I have missed my calling sometimes because I find mental health and psychology truly fascinating. I love learning about mental health disorders and how the mind works and somebody who is ill as opposed to somebody who is not.

    I suffer from a mental health disorder which I am not ashamed of. I am an empath to a fault and I think if I were a therapist or psychiatrist that I would take everybody's problems home with me. I LOVE to be of value to those in pain and I just want to help people become their best. Reaching out to other people is the best kind of therapy for me, it takes my mind off of my anxiety and depression 🙂 I would treat each patient as an individual while building a strong and trustworthy relationship with each and every person that walks through my door.

    I totally agree and have always wondered if my therapists receive therapy as well to help their patients and learn where to disconnect emotionally if they are compassionate like me.

    I truly believe that nowadays everyone on this Earth would benefit from some sort of therapy. Life can be tough and there is nothing to lose by going to a therapist even if it's one in a while. 🙂

  51. Hi Kati, you remind me of my mentor. She was older than me at the time and could walk up to any stranger on the street and tell them all about their lives and fix them on the spot. It was a weird spiritual gift to say the least, and when I brought this up to her she said that maybe she shouldn't do that any more, because it was too harsh on people, and didn't realize it was so jarring on people till she heard it from me. I wasn't criticizing her. I was just awestruck at her skill, now I realize she was not very professional, since she was taught by God and not man. I fondly remember the long talks about the adventures of Freud and Jung over club sodas. I will treasure those times, always.

    She told me I would live through and conquer most mental illnesses or experience something similar placed into my life by God so that I would be able to help others that came into my life. This would be God's way of teaching me how to help others. Over 20 years later, I can say she was correct, but I don't know how to be more professional, and I see myself as needing training. I have no money, am disabled, and outcast. I am surrounded by the profoundly mentally ill that society has just thrown away. This creates little opportunity for learning. Where do I go to learn how to be more professional when helping others? I realize I am not a professional, but these people need help that nobody is willing to give them, and I would love to be of use.

  52. i never heard about therapist going to therapy themselfs. But i think it is good becausde therapists have to deal with a lot of thing and work to

  53. Is it also required (for licensing, credentials, etc.) that you are in therapy when you are a therapist? I'm curious because a friend brought up that question about issues she noticed with someone she knows who happens to be a therapist.

  54. Therapy is also very expensive though @KatyMorton . Unless you use insurance… And then in most cases insurances require a diagnosis which may not even be applicable to the person… So what would you say in that scenario I believe therapy can be helpful at some point to avoid burnout, as a therapist But I don’t think the APA should have the authority to require that. I believe it is overstepping bounds

  55. Thank you for making this video. I'm a huge believer of self care and I got so angry at my new therapist when she wouldn't disclose if she was in therapy. Basically she said that she keeps her private life private and is all up for answering questions about her educational background. I'm really trying to participate in therapy for the first time in YEARS, so I want to make sure I'm seeing an emotionally intelligent and huge personal self care therapist. It angered me to have her refuse to answer my question. I'm thinking of moving on and continuing my hunt for a therapist. I need someone willing to disclose that question. How can a person who hears weird, upsetting, triggering things all day be effective in their work if they aren't going to therapy at least bi-weekly? I just don't get it!

  56. I just know your youtube channel and I really appreciate your works. Your videos help me a lots for my studies in Psychology in France!!! Wish you all the best <3

  57. I had a psychology professor at school who told us that once you've been a clinician for six months the whole world starts to look like a cesspool. I guess clinicians need to know some self care techniques.

  58. I'm changing my major from nursing to psychology. Classes I took got me ahead to where I can graduate from community with an associate degree, I can transfer to a university for a bachelor. My question is? Can you start to practice with an associate degree? And just keep working to masters?

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