3 Narcissistic Traits that are Huge Red Flags Indicating Narcissism in Relationship


Hi Everybody! Lisa A. Romano here the break
through life coach and today I’m going to talk about the three e’s of
narcissism and what you need to look out for there are three distinctive
qualities of a narcissist that if you pay attention to these three
characteristics you will be able to avoid tremendous trauma and drama in
your life so the first one is a lack of empathy the second one is a sense of
entitlement and the third one is exploitation so let’s pull it apart so
let’s say you’re on a date with someone and you tell this person that you feel
tired and you are talking about feeling drained you’re a schoolteacher you have
a bunch of five-year-olds that you had to deal with all day and you feel very
very tired and the principal threw a bunch of work
at you and you’re just really drained let’s say you talk about a child in your
class that is a little bit more difficult than the others and again
you’re talking about frustration if you’re dealing with somebody who does
encounter back with tell me about that oh wow that sounds really difficult if
you don’t feel like that person is able to see you or to mirror back the idea
that they’re able to hear your emotions what you’re sharing that’s something to
look out for on a first date let’s say or that’s something to look out for in a
relationship or you know you’re looking for that type of a pattern in a
relationship if you notice that you are with someone who has a lack of empathy
for other people who very rarely if ever acknowledged people’s pain if you’re in
a conversation with somebody who is a narcissist and you talk about how you
feel your feelings will not be validated and your feelings will not be mirrored
in fact you will be exploited you will be minimized you will be marginalized
you could stand there crying blue in the face after finding a narcissist who has
cheated on you and they will absolutely not take responsibility for how you feel
they could have squandered all your money they will not care how you feel
they won’t care that you know cannot pay your mortgage they won’t care
that you might be evicted they won’t care so a narcissist lacks empathy for
you completely if you are sick they will not care if you get cancer
they do not care they will only care about how your disease or your issue
affects them so a lack of empathy is definitely something that we need to
look out for in the people that we’re dealing with on a day to day basis MRSA
cysts are grandiose in that they believe that what they think and what they feel
and what they need and what they want they’re absolutely entitled to if they
have a feeling if they’re angry they feel entitled to lash out if they have a
if they are frustrated they feel entitled to tell you and to lash out and
to even blame you for why they feel frustrated many narcissists are known to
be deceptive they think nothing of cutting the line wherever you wherever
they are right so it could be the line at the movie theater the line at the
bank it could be cutting people off in
traffic there’s a sense of my needs come before everyone else is a sense of
entitlement they feel entitled to say and to do and to feel and to behave any
way they want to if they’re irritated at you they feel entitled to embarrass you
they have no remorse about embarrassing you
minimizing you and making you feel less than them so there’s this incredible
sense of entitlement they feel entitled to embarrass the waitress they feel
entitled to make fun of your children they feel entitled to take things from
you to borrow your clothes to take your car they feel entitled to take money out
of your bank account if they feel the need to they feel entitled to invite
people to your home right they feel entitled to steal your home from you I
actually dated somebody who I believe was trying to steal my home from me and
who was also at the same time dating at least seven other people so sent
detectives that I had to speak to who informed me that the person that I was
dating stole his mother’s house and he was dating women who
in their own houses and so when you began to put the pieces of the puzzle
together this man lacked empathy from me he felt entitled to lie to me to deceive
me to deceive all these other women and he even felt entitled to possibly even
steal my own house from me narcissus feel entitled to say and do what they
want to do right so whatever comes to their mind they feel like it’s within
their what their right and they feel entitled to put their needs above the
needs of anyone else if you know the children are hungry and the narcissus
one is hungry the narcissus wants to eat before the kids and the narcissus will
be upset that the kids ate before he or she ate if the narcissist is irritable
and wants to leave let’s say an amusement park or a movie theater and
everyone else the whole entire family is enjoying this experience the narcissus
will actually pick everybody up or control the situation make everybody
uncomfortable so that they leave that experience because they are unhappy
whatever the narcissist feels the narcissist wants to make sure that
everyone else is aware that they are in control so if a narcissist is upset and
a narcissist wants to leave and the family doesn’t want to leave then the
narcissist feels entitled to make everyone else feel bad and to destroy
the mood of everyone else so that the outcome is we all go home this is the
way the narcissist maintains power and control over a family unit this also
goes back to lacking empathy so if a narcissist is irritable and pissed off
there’s that family outing let’s say we’re all at the zoo and for whatever
whatever reason the narcissist is annoyed maybe the kids are having too
much fun they’re not showing the narcissist enough appreciation or
something else take the narcissist off and in spite of how everyone else is
feeling the narcissist will not have empathy for the family and will feel
entitled to have his experience or her experience Trump the experience of
everyone else narcissists also exploit they exploit people you know just as a
way to get there so if you’ve got something a narcissist
once the narcissist will exploit you until they get it they will exploit your
emotions they will exploit your vulnerabilities I think one of the most
difficult things to heal after being abused by a narcissist is this idea that
you have shared yourself with them and aside from having them lack empathy for
you minimizing you marginalizing you and
feeling entitled to do all of that there’s this level of exploitation and
you get comfortable with the narcissist they love bomb you they pull you in you
begin to trust them and then slowly over time they begin to insult you and here
it comes here comes all these insults right they start to again minimize you
and make you doubt the way this narcissist really feels about you
they want you incapacitated by your fear of what they might think about you they
want you in fear of that and what is so difficult to wrap our minds around at
least I think so is this idea that our vulnerabilities were exploited I
remember when I was married to my ex-husband and I didn’t know it at the
time I didn’t understand emotional exploitation I didn’t understand
emotional manipulation I didn’t understand gas lighting I didn’t even
understand narcissism I had no clue of codependency I wasn’t even sure that I
was being emotionally abused I just knew that I felt off I felt crazy I felt sick
all the time I had brain fog all the time I wasn’t really sure if this person
loved me or hated me I sort of felt like we were in an adversarial relationship
it felt more like a boxing ring and he was on one side and I was on the other
and I kept going into the middle trying to try to get him to come into the
middle and every time he got close he knocked me out it was just a maddening
experience but like a true codependent that would that suffered attachment
trauma who believed she wasn’t good enough I always thought it was
my fault do you have a relationship with someone and you marry this person over
time you generally begin sharing with them things that have happened to you in
your past and I can tell you that I remember being hurt the most when he
threw something that I shared with him in my face so he was exploiting my
emotional wounds so if I said I felt like my mother didn’t love me when I was
a child when in the middle of an argument or when I was gaining ground in
an argument he would say something like even your own mother told me you were
difficult even your own mother never loved you or even your old mother
didn’t like you it’s not me Lisa your own mother doesn’t like you and he was
exploiting me he was exploiting my wounds he was exploiting my emotions and
he was gaslighting me and his main goal was to get me to feel paralyzed so we
stop talking about what we were talking about and you know what most of the time
it worked because he would say something like even your own mother doesn’t like
you and I would feel so hurt that I would say to him how could you say that
like why would you say that and then I was wrapped up in how could my husband
say that what does this mean and in all of that confusion guess what happened
he created a smoke screen and we were no longer talking about the thing that I
wanted us to talk about I understand is that narcissism is about securing a
narcissistic supply and my ex-husband took my vulnerabilities and on cue
exploited them for his sense of narcissistic supply I now understand
that he was always in search of maintaining this inner balance of that
allowed him to feel in control over the people in his environment mostly how his
narcissism where it was obvious it played out with the children and I
when he was around other people neighbors and so on what he was doing
was he was exploiting how people saw him by manipulating how people saw him and
so strangers always got the best version of my ex-husband and so while he was
manipulating and exploiting the perceptions of the people that saw him
he was securing narcissistic supply from others outside of the family dynamic and
also exploiting the vulnerabilities of myself and our children and so he was
securing narcissistic supply from as many people as he possibly could he
would not tell the truth he would lie to his parents then come home and lie to me
he would lie to the children and in all of these lies there he was maintaining
the sense of balance and control from these various sources of narcissistic
supply another interesting dynamic about narcissists and their need or their
drive to secure narcissistic supply is that they can appear to have empathy so
if you have proven to be a valid source of narcissistic supply the narcissist
can show up for you at least on the surface because in showing up for you
you are supplying them with their narcissistic supply because you now see
this person as altruistic you see this person as a great person my ex-husband
would answer the phone in the middle of the night and travel to go fix a flat
tire for someone because he knew that this person was going to be bragging
about what a wonderful person he was but with the children and I who were already
kind of lashed in and in his head we were already stuck in this situation
he didn’t come off that way with us he got the narcissistic supply by power
over us so when we had an emotion when we shared an emotion with him he
exploited that emotion he didn’t have empathy for that emotion he felt
entitled to ignore what we were feeling and so when we became the
type of narcissistic supply that wasn’t glorifying him we became a source of
narcissistic supply that he could tap into by using power over us through a
lack event that they exploitation of our feelings and through a sense of
entitlement he felt entitled to be able to treat us
in this narcissistic way where he was creating power over us is so
mind-boggling when you recognize that narcissists will exploit anyone and they
feel entitled to exploit anyone and they have absolutely zero empathy for how
their behavior affects other people when dealing with a narcissist
if you’re asking yourself is this person a narcissist remember the three e’s
because they sort of they interface they interlock right because somebody who
feels entitled does not have empathy for other people generally and somebody who
feels entitled in lacks empathy will tend to exploit the needs of others it’s
really really difficult after you’ve been hooked by a narcissist to be able
to sort these things out because so often times you’re dealing with the
narcissist who is using confusing language and says will I love you but if
you weren’t so emotional you’d be easier to love or if you weren’t so paranoid
you wouldn’t worry about how many women I talk to at work or if you were a
better lover then I wouldn’t have to go out and have sex with other men I’ll be
doing a video soon about the things narcissists say and one of the things
that I will be sharing in that video is a comment from a woman who I asked
viewers to please give me your input let me know some of the things that
narcissus have said to you and she wrote me and she said my narcissus said to me
literally said this that I wear condoms when I have sex with other women out of
respect for you I would never open myself up to a sexually transmitted
disease I would never open up myself and the
woman loved-up – a sexually transmitted
disease so when I’m cheat on you I wear a condom okay
lack of empathy for how this woman feels he feels entitled to exploit other women
and this woman right no empathy exploitation and he feels entitled to do
all of this he’s exploiting this woman’s emotions for him she is exploiting her
feelings for him this is what narcissists do as you move forward and
you learn more about narcissism try to see if you can find a pattern that
contains the three es because generally like I said they tend to interlock and
and weave over one another those are the traits that I look for because not
everybody that we argue it is a narcissist not everybody that we dislike
and dislikes us is a narcissist but generally people who are narcissistic or
who have high narcissistic traits are people who feel entitled to exploit
other people and so that means if there is a job promotion at work then someone
who has the high narcissistic traits will lie and do everything that they can
to make sure that they secure at that position and if they have to lie and
have a lack of empathy for you if they have to triangulate you against you if
they have to deceive other people when it comes to you if they have to withhold
work from yous that you can’t finish the project so that they can have the
position they feel entitled to they are going to do it it can be a crazy world
out there and those of us who are on the codependency spectrum where we are other
focus not self focused we have to be careful right we need a higher awareness
about the way that we feel the way we think and how we interface with the 3d
world because we are lining up with narcissistic people because narcissists
are self focused and codependents or other focus so it’s a hand in a glove
we’re also both shame based the narcissist is shame based and a
codependent is shame based but a narcissist deals with the shame by
controlling and manipulating the people for narcissistic supply a codependent
generally tries to become a people pleaser a fixer and enabler tries to
take care of other people and tries to gain validation through works through
self sacrifice both shame based but interface their ego interfaces in the 3d
world differently and with different
intentions we need to know this information especially if we are on the
codependency spectrum and or if we have high empathy and Pat’s want to help and
fix everybody we feel other people’s pain and past have reported to me that
they can feel the shame of a narcissist and in their in their being they have a
desire to love this narcissist and show them that there is a better way when
ends up happening is true narcissist will totally debilitate an impact and
can really cause true emotional and psychological damage in many of the
cases through the sheer abuse and exploitation of the empaths
vulnerabilities kindness and generosity and the ability to feel other people’s
feelings so I hope this video has helped I hope is create a little bit more
clarity and those of you who are wondering how can I be a little bit more
skillful on my path when I am trying to avoid people who have high narcissistic
traits remember the three e’s I hope this is helped bye for now
nameste dear ones until next time

100 thoughts on “3 Narcissistic Traits that are Huge Red Flags Indicating Narcissism in Relationship

  1. Thankyou Lisa, I have applied all your videos and now I am free! (Yes I left the narc last week) anyone reading this- yes change is possible and joy is waiting for you ❤

  2. Fantastic video Lisa. I recognised all of this characteristics in my narc husband. He is master of exploitation.

  3. I was telling my “boyfriend” about my troubles at work and he said “right, right” and then turned around in order to look at maître d’ s cleavage. Before you invest money and time in a man make sure he isn’t a taker and a narcissist.

  4. Thank you for this clear and comprehensive video explaining narcissistic behaviors. I have watched many videos on the topic, and only now feel clearer in my understanding. Your personal experiences and hypotheticals are particularly helpful. I am still not sure how covert narcissistic behaviors differ, beyond behaviors being more subtlen which seems would make them more difficult to identify or detect. But perhaps that is because I have been a victim, and do not yet see all of the subtle aspects of how the disorder manifests uniquely in those individuals I know, as you also touch on in this video toward the end.

  5. And it is seen by one year’s of age! Evil is seen that early! I have seen babies hug and share love! Narcs don’t hug! These people are dangerous! Why doesn’t anybody take this more seriously! 🤷‍♀️

  6. I’m numb to these criminals! That’s criminal behavior is what it really is! Criminals are entitled that’s why they steal!

  7. I’ve known about gaslighting since I was a kid! I didn’t know what it was called back then but I’m pretty numb to it now! I see it as ridiculous these days! Stupid! Immature!

  8. My goodness!! Steal your home? How? Do you have a story video? Or you mean get your home through divorce?

  9. When my dad died 3 years ago I was told by my boyfriend ," if he was my dad he would want to die too to have u as a daughter . is that a narcissistic. I went into the hospital twice now, I was very sick. He never came to see me or call me while I was sick.

  10. Me: I am sick. When we got married you took a vow to take care of me.
    My ex husband: well I didn't know it was going to be all time.
    Me: 🖤

  11. HEY LISA.. AFRAID I DONT WATCH YOU MUCH BUT THIS WAS A REALLY XLNT VIDEO……….wouldnt the exploitation be a sign of ASPD and how important is it to catagorize people as Narcs sociopaths and or Psychopaths….some of these people described as Narcs by many seem to be sociopaths…..i dont like to mis diognose or mis catagorize so ….i know it is murky water….there are so many different levels of harm

  12. Exactly my ex husband SAG narcissist still trying to murder me to get my assets they go around looking for women who live alone with home…finances…car and hoping their narcissistic abuse will make you physically ill and for you to commit suicide so they can take everything you have thats why they rush relationships and marriage…

  13. Such a lie they go around having sex with several people unprotected and spread stis/stds/hiv from one person to the next…🏃🏃🏃🏃

  14. This is one of your best videos thus far. Thank you for catering to such a niche clientele. You are helping more people than I think you realize. God bless you.

  15. Are there tricks for dealing with and setting boundaries with children who are selfish and inconsiderate of others?

  16. I just realized that when my boyfriend says "but I never chat with that other woman in your presence!" it is a f. up narc thing! 😂😆

  17. My narcissist mother tried to control the last family vacation we took 13 years ago from requiring a separate room (that I paid for) and trying to end our day at a theme park. My 12 year old daughter & I were having a blast so I told her to do whatever she wants but we are staying. We left her & my 17 year old brother to do their own "thing" while we did ours for the rest of the trip. I haven't talked to her in many years and I'm completely at peace if I never see or hear from her again. At 50, I am still healing my ability to have healthy relationships & habits after a lifetime of abuse.

  18. Yes this is my mother. My mom never cared if I was sick she would always tell me I have my own problems.never a loving mother

  19. Do Narcissists parents use religion as a tool to install fear in there kids hearts? so you can obey the parents no matter what the parents have done.

  20. So many truths here. Insults the children, controls when and how the family dies everything. Uses people. No empathy for the devastation they cause. And when you stand up for yourself, it is your fault that these things have happened. My kids and I were always on edge and scared that he was going to blow up any second. Another sign is that you always feel like you are trying to teach them common sense. Once you learn about all these narcissistic behaviors, it is so maddening. Now I have to co-parent 3 teenagers with him. Two of my kids are in therapy and I have to constantly tell the therapist all the lies he tells to cover for his bad behavior. He even gaslights the kids. Complete nightmare.

  21. Team of 144 you should know that everyone that is not the 144.000 to save the world are illuminati Freemasons. Sorry to drop this truth on here but time to wake up
    Love you

  22. Narcissism is on a spectrum. This video is making me think that I am not actually a narc. But I think I am. We can be interested in other people. What you are describing sounds like a psychopath

  23. EVERY WORD THAT YOU UTTERED is so SADLY TRUE. I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MY EX. MY DAUGHTER IS A HORROR. I GET IT NOW. YOU CAN DESPISE A CHILD. I DO

  24. Hopefully this will help someone my brother very narcissistic and I adored him. Of course he showed the good person to To me until he wanted to live in a property I owned, wasn’t paying me rent, kept making excuses then eventually he used his status as a lawyer to steal the house from me. Since he had rights to the court he could sue me knowing I couldn’t afford it to defend myself.The Californian bar does nothing. I showed them absolute fraud because he also took money from my mother I showed them he was in bankruptcy showed he promised to pay us back when he sold a house however that house was in foreclosure so that was a lie. They basically asked him if he ever was contracted to me to be my lawyer he said no and they said there was nothing they could do. Although I showed how he was suing me for $1 million for my own house it was fully unbelievable. There were definitely signs of the narcissism such as he always had a story of how someone unjustly treated him and ripped him off… Those are the people he ripped off. Or those were the people he was about to rip off. So big lesson whether it’s family anyone should have a rental agreement, people need to be responsible. People That always have bad luck or probably lying about it.His mental manipulation included he didn’t make enough money because I didn’t find him a job as a lawyer, and I saw him buying lots of things and asked him to start paying me back and he told me I was trying to make his family homeless. He started a vicious smear campaign trying to get people to believe that I was addicted to drugs and therefore am greedy and trying to steal his house. The house was clearly in my name with my name on the title. Then he started telling people that I bought the house for him It really isn’t my house. So the mental working this was very disturbing.The mental warped notice was an eye-opener and through Lisa’s videos I started toUnderstand what was going on.

    A few flags though was Bad mouthing people, such as someone so did something negative to him, that he would make up stories like I heard that so and so got a divorce because… Then set that person up. He did that with his ex-wife also who apparently paid for all their stuff and he got one house that was free and clear no mortgage.He mortgaged it for 200,000 and with in two years was asking my mom to pay his mortgage he spent all the money. My mom sunk $70,000 into it and he was bullying her to keep paying she was 92 at the time. His wife also

  25. I'm surrounded by them…Now I scream, and yell and just live in anger. I am a generous, people pleasing fool. I wonder what is worse. I could never steal or ruin anyone's life. I just see these assholes come out on top often….

  26. Is ut possible for an empath to be a narcissist? I ask this because I have heard that empaths are the ultimate caring people but I have seen first hand people who say they are empaths that don't believe in acknowledging other people's thoughts or feelings. And will then make it seem like the other person was wrong for telling them or expressing those feelings. I am new to all this codependency stuff and want to heal as best possible but i am in love with an "empath" that constantly avoids my thoughts and feelings and will only see her side of the matters. Any advise?

  27. The most common and dangerous narc know how to fake empathy! The obvious ones will show a lack if it! We need better examples of the covert narc!

  28. You speak the truth. I agree with you 100%!!!! Excellent video!!!! Exploit, Entitlement and lacks Empathy. So Simple. So True.

  29. omg my ex always talked about himself…. this is number 1 red flag for me for someone who is narcissist.

  30. I'm an empath and was definitely damaged by my first marriage and a few relationships that followed. Luckily my 2nd husband is not a narcissist and has helped with a lot of my healing. Thank you for articulating so well to help understand the mind of a narcissist.

  31. How is it that this describes my family member so perfectly ???? Thank you for this enlightenment and the tools to go on from here. This is the 3rd narcissist I have had in my life( a lesson I must learn apparently.)

  32. The scary part is how progressive this disorder is… I've observed this within my family and others…this is horrendous…the entitlement the humiliation… recreating history to make you feel like everything wrong with them is your fault… projection at it's worst…..

  33. my narcissistic co-worker would fake empathy to the point that I thought she looked so over the top phony, but people really thought she cared about them. I felt completely singled out by the narc co worker. She is now gone (fired for all of her lies and destruction), but there are some people who never saw her as a narcissist. I believe that was her game – nasty as all heck to me (her target) and sugary sweet to everyone else. I think most of us have difficulty understanding how a narcissist can behave the way they do because it is so unbelievably nervy. A normal person would feel horrible about themselves for being so hypocritical and evil that they just couldn't bring themselves to stoop so low. The narcissist just doesn't have a conscience.

  34. I totally agree. I fell into the trap of a narc that loved bombed me and then here come the darkside. This was a business relationship then the person quickly turned it into a friendship that ended up badly.

  35. Narcissism can be inherited, for as much as it's difficult, hurtful, painful to have narcissistic parent one can become same if awareness is lacking.

  36. Lisa A Romano, I like that you got straight to the main points and then elaborated afterwards, I wish more speakers would do that.

  37. my wife is a covert narsicist she wont do many of these things…like cutting in line..cut someone off in traffic…she has this holier than anyone else thing going…always taked about her "friends " acting bieng slutty…but she would say inappropriate sexual things (historionic behavior) and do slutty things ! very wierd…but she felt entitled to act this way but her friends were slutty …coverts r sneaky watch out!!!!

  38. Narcissist are the cruelty in person – they are sadistic pseudo humans.
    What makes a human ? – Compassion – empathy, love – kindness – forgivness – so haw are the narc humans – only biological – by flesh and blood – its the same with psychophats and soziopaths – there's no mirror neurones at work.

  39. Narcissists are classically two faced. I actually learned to not trust people who seem so “nice” and charismatic

  40. Every single word you said resonated with me and my experiences.
    Learning to be "more skillful" is what I am focusing on now.

  41. Horrible….Lisa….I know….I have been bankrupted by a narcissist…and that while i am a lawyer…..a good one…

  42. And in the end before i ended the relationship:
    – attempted rape;
    – namecalling;
    – triangulation;
    – abandonment with no money;
    – physical violence;
    – withholding intimacy.

  43. These people are demons…this behaviour is not human. I am convinced that I dealt with a missionary of Satan…

  44. I totally connect with your experiences. I have been there also. Thank you for sharing

  45. Entitled,
    No Empathy,
    Exploitation……also

    Egomaniacs,
    Exhaustive,
    & Truly Evil in the 🖤

    As described below 👍🏽

  46. yes,,they have absolutely no EMPATHY ,my Ex Narc left me for another supply,,when i was in final stage of liver failure,and when i asked for support after 18 yrs of marriage,he said" why am I being blamed for her illness and being punished to pay her" I am happy to report i have been divorced from him for 2 yrs no contact for 3 yrs ,got a new liver ,my son left him,moved out on his own at 19 and i survived a liver transplant,,and just bought my first home,,My life turned around BIG TIME,,,,,no more negative crappy toxic stew i live in,,Great Video !!

  47. You always end with Namaste, do you know what it means ? Do you really recognise the soul of a narcissist, do you honor the light,love,beauty, truth and kindness within them because it is also within you? In sharing these things there is no difference between you and the narcissist, do you feel you are the same and you are one with them?????

    Wow !

  48. My ex used to say "no one will love you the way I do" and he was right… but that was a good thing because his so-called 'love' was absolutely psychotic!!! I currently work with a Narc and I make it a point to avoid any type of interaction with her as much as possible. She reminds me so much of my ex. She is filled with fear and self-loathing and that is sad.

  49. Good things to look out for in this video. I feel the signs are different for covert narcissists or maybe not different but they are so much better at covering it up and acting empathetic and as if they care. Scary!

  50. Yep! 😊👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💋💋💋💖💖💖💖💚💚💚💔💔💔

  51. You are helping me!! Thank you! I'm seeing the truth! All three E's. No one would probably believe me because he is such a great guy to everyone else they think but I know he's a liar and Very Covert. I feel so sick it's so hard to believe.

  52. Fyi I've had this condom story happen to me also and heard it from a number of other people in my life. Must be a common thing. Also this behaviour is supported somewhat by our society I believe.

  53. I'm working on my 40 discovery questions today for a divorce. I went to an emergent church and my life group- was made of people he worked with and their spouses. This group had church leaders… I'm getting no support since I'm divorcing. My husband lies constantly and the church really wants to believe his lies. just wish I had cjosen a better group.

  54. Question…regarding the need to tell others when they are frustrated, can this not actually be a good thing? I actually would rather know if someone was frustrated by something I was doing, because maybe I could come up with a compromise or stop doing said thing all together if it was something unimportant. I also have been telling a certain narc in my life when they upset me, and they keep telling me that I don't have to tell them when they upset me and that I should just get over it and I'm too sensitive. To me, telling them when they upset me was a way to really understand if they truly were a narc or not. I got my answer with their responses. SO…when is it actually a bad sign when someone airs their frustrations?

  55. OMG!! Did they Ever But this Super Empath found Youtube and Videos like Yours and I'm coming back stronger by the day But with Knowledge NOW !!

  56. Lisa thank you ive been wondering for years whats wrong with ME?!WHY im unworthy of my mothers love and everything you say esp these 3 E'S finally it makes sense after 52 years of putting up with the narcs in my family my brother has slowly become one over the last 5 yrs our father just died of prostate cancer im diagnosed terminal yet not even This has opened my brothers eyes or my mothers im now again the TARGET AS ive not much support system at all and i cant have my mom involved with my drs as she has gotten us thrown out over her mouth and i cant have her involved in my care becuase its all about HER! ive CONTACTED hospice even though shes messed that up once she wants people to beleive SHE IS ALL I NEED and is taking best care of me Not true and she stole my car and sold it she had a neighbor a notary to sign my title under lost or abandoned ??not clear yet how she pulled that off I thank you LISA I UNDERSTAND NOW Ive been abused by this narc my mom for all these years only wish it was years ago! So many stories here that remind me of my life and the triangulation technique used and ive been a people pleaser i think as ive always want to help everyone ease anothers pain ive a son born disabled and have alot of empathy and apathy?

  57. God bless you and your family and work I love you for teaching me this I am writing it down in my journal because finally NOW I am able to check this out on a 1 st date so I won't be cornered and caught by a narcissist again love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia

  58. I just subbed to you today. So glad I found your channel. You are gorgeous, and your talents are so many. One of which is that you are very well spoken. Thanks so much for your channel.

  59. Extremely Validating video…a reminder to NOT go backwards and to stop considering that anything could ever possibly be sincere. Thank you So very much!!!
    💞💎🌈🌹🌈💎💞

  60. I can relate to everything you said my partner appears so nice to everyone except close family.Any information from my past or anytime i say someone did something hurtful the information is stored then thrown in my face.

  61. Lisa, your channel is by far the best channel on narcissistic abuse. The way you so wholeheartedly can explain the whole process is so remedial. Many other channels are either too academical or personal, not that their words aren't important. But what many people need, who has been injured by narcissism, is the empathy and understanding that you possess and shares so generously.

  62. I'm sorry to sound naive, but how does someone steal your house? Ask to be added to the mortgage or deed? Use it as collateral in a loan? I need to know because I have been a magnet for these types.

  63. You are describing my son and my ex boyfriend. I feel like I’m going crazy and very depressed. I feel anxiety every time I see them both.

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