우울증 극복 | 깊은 패배감과 슬럼프에서 나를 구원한 방법 feat.책추천


I may be up here talking to all of you as if I have no fear I’ve been fighting against those who criticize me, blame me, and judge me and until I could say to them “You are all wrong” I’ve lived most of my life tolerating and enduring it You said to do what you want But I don’t know what I want to do And I don’t know what I would like to do How can you find that dream? Oh so, how to find your dream? (My anxiety-filled 20s)
I imagined I would receive a lot of questions like that So I’ve brought some very special presents When I was a university student,
I had a boyfriend I dated for 7 years It’s a very dramatic story and I’ll tell it to you guys He was the most famous boy in our neighborhood His height was 182cm, top of his class,
and resembled Woo Sung Jung (The perfect boyfriend)
That person dated me for 7 years! (Why does he like you?)
Everybody wanted to know the reason Why? The question he got the most was
“Why are you dating her?” It was a time when I weighed over 60kg because of my studying all day, and I was a total mess But this popular guy was dating me… So naturally, people wanted to know why He told me once and said he was dating me because he
“liked my weirdness” “I like your quirkiness and odd behaviors that you do,” he said and dated me for 7 years And what it was like dating him was You can tell that I’m not a model student, right?
You can just tell by looking at me If I was interested in something I dove deep into it,
but was never the typical good-student But being next to him gave made me feel special (It feels good to be a model student!)
I was being treated as if I was a model student Just being with him
changed how others acted in front of me So they’d give me a book for free or some free tasty snacks I loved how people were treating me So I thought to myself,
“Wow, being a model student must be great!” And maybe it was because he was good looking,
but people were more generous I like being treated like this So before I knew it, I wanted to be like him (I want to be a model student too)
So before I knew it, I wanted to be like him But I’m not like that. I swear a lot and generally act out But whenever I was with him I acted very elegantly I even changed the way I talked when I was beside him I really did all of this I was changing who I was But it also felt like I wasn’t being “me” I studied arts in university It was my dream to become a movie director So I put a lot of time and effort into writing scenarios and studying them After 3 years of it, I realized that it wasn’t for me I wanted to burn all of my scenarios that I had written It was a frustrating time for me I wasn’t good at anything couldn’t write a good scenario This was all that I had learned, and it left me wondering what I was going to do after I graduated But my boyfriend at the time
went to a prestigious university still maintained his popularity had a great body because he liked to exercise,
and he had gotten even more handsome He personality was also great, so much that he even ran for the student body president Dating a person like that, made me want to hate myself “Wow, I’m really insignificant…” I once even thought, “I want to just give up, and settle” “I just want to live my life comfortably” Those were the only thoughts going through my head I think I was 23 around that time This was when I was barely scraping by.
I think the early 20’s are the most difficult times I was very anxious about my future,
but he was doing just fine He once said to me, “This month, I’m going to do a challenge of reading 100 times” So, as soon as he wakes up he’s reading a book
and he’s already up by 5:00 am He’s already studying.
Do you know how annoying that is to watch? Around 10:00 am, I might wake up.
But he’s already up and studying at 5:00 am! It’s so annoying! Whenever I see people like him, it just stresses me out But it’s because of my anxiety As soon I as wake up, I feel anxious
and when it’s time for bed I can’t sleep All of my thoughts were basically,
“I’ll wake up tomorrow as a loser. Again” It was because I kept comparing myself to him (Searching for a “psychology book” to help myself)
So I started to read some books on Psychology None of them helped me They were useless I looked at videos, read books
and none of them helped me at all But then, I found the only book that actually helped me This isn’t an ad It was a book by Alain de Botton called, “Status Anxiety” Have you heard of this book before? This book doesn’t have a story and it’s about the emotion we call anxiety It describes what anxiety is For one, I was frustrated
not being able to pinpoint what made me so anxious But this book seemed to give me the answers It told me why I was anxious There’s more of it,
but it also gives a way to resolve that anxiety But the one thing that I resonated with this book the most was that it said “We only suffer from status anxiety when we compare ourselves with our reference group” A “reference group” is
a set of people who we believe resemble us And I wasn’t in the same reference group
as my then boyfriend Like, he was from a different world But I mistakenly thought
that he and I were in the same group Well, because we dated for 7 years So it made me antsy
thinking I had to wake up at 5:00 am and study with him But he and I are in completely different categories.
We even have different goals in life And mistakenly setting him as my reference group
made me antsy everyday But after knowing where my anxiety was coming from,
it got a lot better Also, breaking up with him was also a funny story One day, we went to see a movie called ‘Begin Again” I loved that movie so much,
I watched it 3 times I watched it once with an American friend Once with my sister, and once with my ex When I was watching with my friend,
whenever a song came out I just had to dance I liked that song so much that whenever it was on I as dancing in my seat like this So when we watched it together, we were head-banging our heads to the song in the very back seats I had a blast watching the movie The one day, my ex-boyfriend told me he wanted to see that movie, so I went and watched it with him But when that scene was starting I was ready to start dancing when he grabbed my hand He said to me, “Don’t do it. Don’t act up in here” There’s was no one else with us.
It was just us in the back seat doing a little bit of this But he grabbed my hand and just told me to stop it How I interpreted this in that moment
was like he was saying “Don’t act like yourself” He really was a perfect boyfriend But what I felt there and then was that if I were to be with him, I couldn’t be myself I am a person who has to head-bang
when the song turns on But I can’t do it when I’m with him I was very sad but I made my decision that day to break up with him But how can you just break up with someone you’ve been with for 7 years? So I told him the news and went to Australia And that was the start of my life’s 2nd chapter Living there,
I found out that people there are just like me If someone told me to stop dancing they’d all look at that person and say he’s crazy So when I was there, I did everything I wanted to do Eat what I wanted to eat and just be me I was truly happy there with zero anxiety Anyway so to the person who asked me this question I’ll giving gifting him this book I would first want you to understand why you feel anxious about not knowing what you want to do (How I protected my myself from being anxious)
When I didn’t know what I wanted to do I kept learning something That was my strength Whenever I don’t know what I want to do I want to just lie down in bed and sleep,
and give up on everything But I just held on to that feeling and started studying It didn’t matter what I was learning or studying I once talked about Steve Jobs’ theory of connecting the dots. Do you guys remember that one? If you started to learn something, it meant that you has some kind of interest, right? And because you are interested in it, at the time, it feels like a waste of time All of that will later come to help you in many ways Really When Arty and I were living in the countryside There’s was literally nothing to do But my grandmother’s backyard had this patch of land that was full of junk And Arty said to me that it seemed like a waste of space and let’s turn it into a small park So we put up some bricks and paved a road I’ll upload a pic to Instagram later We even made a pizza stove within the park And now, it’s a place where other grandmothers come out for fresh air bake some pizzas and even a place to have a barbecue But we had to learn how to make all of it How to lay the bricks so they fit,
and how to create a sturdy foundation When Arty and I were doing this we thought it was pointless learning how to do it ourselves But later when we are doing something,
all of that seems to be relevant in someway “If the foundation isn’t good, the bricks are going to fall out” “So it’s important that we do this with care” I think I’m a person that realizes something big from the small incidents I’ve experienced You know what I’m talking about, right? These little things start to build up and when I do something, they actually become helpful After I realized that, I tried to apply it everywhere Although it may be something trivial, but you’ve learned something from it, right? Then you just live with it and apply it where ever you can Even if you don’t know what you want to do right now Then just… I read a lot of webtoons during my time If I wanted to read some, I started reading them You might think of it as a waste of time, but you never know what you might get out from it So just do what your heart tells you to do Then you can find what you truly want to do The video that I like the most is the one where you talk about living in Australia on a working holiday visa You said that in Korea, you were told you were a weirdo whereas in Australia you heard that you were special and unique. That one really got to me For a person who’s job hunting, my friends who already have a job look like they are trying to live a normal life But then, wouldn’t there be some kind of fear about “doing what I want?” (Creating my own voice)
For me, my life before high school graduation my life was very rough Even my parents told me that I was too much of a burden on them You see, I was born in Gyeongsang-do Is there anyone else from Gyeongsang-do? I’m in my late 20’s, but up to around my age There was a lot of school-related violence
when I went to school It was just a daily routine for the teachers to hit me with chairs, slap me, or even kick me But I just couldn’t live like that I’ll ask myself “Why are they being beaten?”
“Why do they not fight back?” I just couldn’t turn a blind eye to what was happening So I was constantly fighting with teachers But it’s ironic that both my parents are, in fact, teachers Both my parents are teachers, and I still fight with the teachers at school Even if the teacher didn’t even touch me I’ll be like, “Teacher! Why are you hitting them? Do you think this is acceptable?” Think how irritated that teacher must have been So the teachers hated me And because of that, I was causing too much trouble My parents were summoned to school a lot because of that It was then when they really just gave up on me saying, “You are what you are” So my parents were sick of me and I was also upset that I couldn’t just fit it At one point I even thought that I was a useless, irrelevant person in this world Due to that, I was depressed with my early 20’s I felt like I didn’t fit in anywhere I was mad at myself for not being able to fit in and it frustrated me But when I was overseas, it was the first time I heard someone say that I saw special I think that in Korea, there isn’t a lot of people who can speak their own voice It’s because we are all considered about what the other person might think of us “What if I stand out too much?” “What if they think I’m acting out too much?” Because many think of these questions, there isn’t a unique voice But I didn’t care if people hated me or blamed me for something I’ll say, “You can hate me all you want, but I have to say what’s on my mind” When I take the blame, it’s difficult and painful But after that time had passed, I never once regretted what I had done I think I always lived a life without regrets But I had also heard from a lot people that I am selfish “Only if you we’re quiet” They say I’m like a needle that pokes everybody But I think it’s people who are like needles that ultimately bring some change into the world I think I was that person during my school years What is considered normal today don’t happen these days, like the school punishments in the past But I think it’s people like me with a voice that brought this change to the world But if among you guys there are people think, (If you are unhappy with your life here)
“I’m unhappy here” or “living here is too much” Or if you think that people here don’t like you
and they think you are a weird person I would suggest that you leave for another place Why I think that is because I want to return to Korea someday But when I say “leave,” I don’t mean to run away I want you guys to see the world and realize that you’re not who these people think you are Then when you come back here and people say that you are weird You can say to them “No, you’re the one who’s weird” I mentioned that I was like the black sheep of the family I mean, really, all of my relatives are teachers The atmosphere of my family is pretty conservative So ever since I was a kid, everyone thought that I was the weird-o When they said to me, “You’re weird,”
I would reply, “You’re right. I am weird” But what they said in the past…
As I’m now some-what successful Now since I’m a little successful, now they say “I knew you were special ever since you were little” “I knew you’d become something great!” Really. They’ve changed how they treat me I heard a lot of people say to me “loser,” “You’ll never become anything” when I was growing up Especially from teachers They would say to me, “Do you think you’ll ever be somebody?” But look at me now I’m the one on EBS, not the teachers! I personally, (Having no titles and labels attached)
I’m not in the habit of giving myself labels and titles Koreans, especially, love to put labels and titles onto things On their names, their jobs, even on their careers But if someone were to ask me,
“What do you do for a living?” I reply to them.
“I just do this-and-that” I’m not a Youtuber I’m not a traveller Nor am I a teacher Because the moment I label myself as a teacher I won’t be able to put on these fancy wigs Would I be able to have piercings on if I were a teacher? The second I put myself into these molds,
I become just like everybody else If I were to say to people that I was a traveller I might’ve not had the chance to go back to the states to study Because I would have had to stay there for a certain period of time So, I think that fitting ourselves into these molds is us wanting to be comfortable It’s like thinking,
“Well, since I’m a teacher I only need to do this!” Or, “Since I’m a Youtuber, I only need this” But if I say “I do this-and-that,” I can do whatever I want without anything holding me back I can do anything! That’s why I don’t want to fit into a mold So when many people say their dreams are to become a teacher, or something something It’s great that you have a dream, but I want you to get rid of the desire to be framed into something If I were trapped in a frame labeled as a teacher Even when I did Youtube, people really liked my English tutorial videos It was easy for me too It was like,
“I’m good at English, I’ll just make some tutorial videos” But there’s more that I want to do I want to show you guys more and do more I didn’t want to limit myself to just that And that’s why I am able to share more of various things and also share a wider world view point I really wanted to go on a working holiday But my family is very oppose to the idea Now, I’m doubting myself into thinking if I don’t have what it takes to go through it And I want to know how you resolved your conflict with your family (The selfish choice is the best decision for us)
I have just one thing to say to you I talked about how much
I hate being in a mold or a frame I have never lived my life as my mother’s daughter Likewise, I never lived my life as Arty’s girlfriend What I’m trying to say is,
I am Arty’s girlfriend And no matter what,
being a daughter to my mother does not change But I don’t live my life as that That’s why I wear these wigs
that my mom hates so much And Arty may like it or hate it, I don’t know I’ve uploaded a 16 minute video talking about all my ex-relationships That one got 650K views, or something like that? I think being scared of those things is the same as being trapped in these frames Although I am my mother’s daughter,
if I leave my mother she might be heartbroken She won’t like it one bit I think you’re holding onto that frame The frame of “I am my mother’s daughter” But because you can’t let go of that,
you’re not able to move on with your own life You have to know this Because my mom loves me,
her ultimate desire is for me to be happy If doing this is going to make you happy, no matter how much your
mom’s going to oppose it, you have to do it Why? Because that’s what’s ultimately
going to make her happy I’m saying this to you because I never followed the conventional route most people take Think of how scared I was making those decisions I even bought a book on anxiety.
That’s how scared I was But regardless of that I knew that this anxiety won’t be solved
if i followed what someone else had done So my mother didn’t like it, my father didn’t like it,
my whole family didn’t like it There was this fear at the time But if I don’t face this fear right now I thought that I would regret for the rest of my life And that selfish decision is currently making me, my mom, and my dad happy If you are struggling with something similar with your family and are contemplating on what to do Choose to be selfish Because the selfish decision will ultimately be your happiness as well as your parents’ Right now, your mother may be very disappointed in you If someone said to you, “How could you do this to me?!” Say back to them, “What are you talking about?” “Of course I can do that!” “I live for myself and my happiness will be your happiness too” You need to that kind of mindset It’ll make you happy and your parents happy And to this fragile lady, I gift this to you Thank you I had a letter submission event and a lot of people actually submitted theirs in This is a letter to my little brother who’s 10 years younger than me I really wanted a sibling so I asked my mother for one and he just popped right out But… He just popped out, like that? I now have to work and your older brother and I will be financially support you instead of our parents But I want to travel I’m thinking of traveling with you or… go by myself, or just financially support you You seem to have a lot of things to think about I can see that you have this frame you want to be fitted into so badly It feels as if you’re closely holding the title as the older sister to take care of your little brother But to tell you the truth, your brother’s life in his own But thinking of whether to bring him along or not… This is also… Your brother might think like this: “Why bring me along?” “I’m going to stay here and enjoy my life!”
He may have thought something like that Also Why are you thinking about those things? Your brother has to live his own life You can’t do that to him It may be the case that your family has some financial problems so you need to support the family So you’ve been taking care of your little brother as if he was your own child But your brother is his own identity He’ll start to find what he wants to do and someday have a dream to become something He may want to go to England or even China Trying to take him with you is being selfish It’s a paradox Why, you ask? Do you may think that sacrificing yourself and bringing him along for him to live a better life
will make you a better sister? But that might not be the case You have think critically about this Were you happy thinking about it? Because it’s a lot to consider You’re just imagining it by yourself
and you’re getting stressed by it But it doesn’t seem right for the older sister to intervene in his life like that Even if it was with good intentions You two are completely different people You thinking that you need to support your little brother could be an act of disrespect towards him Or you could be just seeing him
as the baby brother forever Or you could be making your little brother the obstacle blocking the path you want to take And ultimately, your brother could become your easy go-to excuse How terrible does that sound? You can’t do that to him or to yourself So do you have something you want to do? If you do, don’t think of anyone else but you If you want to do something, you have to do it But you can’t keep involving
your mom or your brother into it Do you understand what I’m saying? No matter how good the intentions were, okay? Promise me today that you won’t from now on Alright! What kind of present shall I gift this little cutie? All the presents I’m handing out today
were bought with my own money But “Sudio,” who have been big fans of “Arty and Banana” have sponsored us with some earphones to give out I’m going to give her these earphones The biggest reason why I’m gifting these earphones is… Right now you guys are writing letter to your friends and your loved ones I’m giving these to you guys because I want you guys to listen to their stories more carefully Thank you for coming This is a letter from Jeon Sub.
I’ll read it out loud for all of you Only if Arty was a little better at Korean
I would’ve asked him to do it Our friend and teacher, Ji Won, will read it for us I don’t think I can read this one… Hello everyone!
It seems I’ve been picked to read this letter (Give her a a round of applause!) Thank you I’ll recite the letter now To, My beautiful princess daughter Hello my beautiful princess When I was 22, I got pregnant with you
and had you at the age of 23 Although I was alone through it all But I proudly gave birth to you Because you are the most beautiful person in the world that I didn’t want to give up on Although during the examination, the doctors told me to prepare blue clothes You don’t know how surprised I was to see my little baby daughter I couldn’t stop smiling when I had to buy your clothes and your shoes all over again If this were to happen again,
I would choose you over and over again That’s because you are my precious daughter I know school can be tough, my child Even though you may be too young to fully understand the feelings I have for you But you make me so proud watching you make friends and learning with them Today, I had the chance to write a letter to the person that means the most to me Because today, I had a chance to go meet one of my favorite teachers in the whole world I also had a time
when I used to chase celebrities around But it’s been so long that I got butterflies in my stomach I want to raise you like Banana teacher.
A strong, beautiful woman with big dreams At first, I struggled with everything and wanted to give up but by chance, I got to watch one of her video letters Through that, I was able to gather my strength and hopes to tackle this harsh world Being a mother is a first for me too While I am still young
and don’t know how the world works I want to you to see, listen, and speak what good and happy things this big world has to offer I’ll always be there for you, encouraging you
and supporting you I love you, my precious child I’ll do my best to fill in your for your father, give you more love than you can imagine, and make you happy I’m grateful for you, and I love you so much From, Your loving mother Can you see why I couldn’t read this one out loud? At the time, I filmed a video letter to all the single moms I may be up here talking to all of you as if I have no fear I’ve been fighting against those who criticize me, blame me, and judge me and until I could say to them “You are all wrong” I’ve lived most of my life tolerating and enduring it I’ve said it before but I may look all fancy and shiny on the outside But on the other side, there was a time when I could only buy a 4,000 KRW green screen Likewise, you may think me as a person who has a strong ego with nothing to fear But I’m also the same person who struggled with the darkness inside of her That’s why I’m so grateful to all of you
who wrote me letters I take a lot of responsibility in becoming a person who can influence other people like yourselves I want to widen my perspective of the world and also share that with everyone and become a better role model to show them that there’s nothing to worry about I’m sure that some of you have already heard from others that you are a weirdo, an outcast of society I also believe that there are young people,
like me, who have struggled But if you just take a tiny step outside of your world, there’s an entire world to experience! So don’t be afraid and never judge a book by its cover Even the person you all came to see,
must’ve experience at least one of these situations You might even have someone
you backtalk about right now “I don’t like the way she behaves” “She’s too shallow” “She talks too much and acts out” You may have already said that about someone But from this moment forward I want you to realize
that the world you see is just a fraction of it I want you guys to promise me that you’ll never easily speak ill of someone like that again To all those who came here to see us
And to those who couldn’t come as well
We want to thank you for all your love
– From Arty and Banana –

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  1. 그동안 비바람 속의 들꽃이었던 네가 황야에서 어떻게 단단해졌는지
    오랜 네 이야기를 들으며…이젠 나의 스승이 된 너를 본다.
    밤송이 같았던 네 속의 굵고 실한 알밤을 본다.
    미안하고, 고맙고… 장하고…
    너의 가장 멋짐 포인트는
    모든 삶의 에피소드를 네 삶의 거름으로 삼을 줄 알고, 약으로 쓸 줄 아는 지혜를 가졌다는 것이다.

  2. 정말 관심있던 주제라 새벽에 업로드 되자마자 들어왔습니다!! ㅠㅠ선댓글 후감상 하러 갑니다😭 알랭드 보통 '불안'나왔을때 깜짝 놀랐어요! 한마디 한마디 너무 귀하고 감사하네요. 예전부터 느꼈던건데 정말 저랑 성향이나 생각하는 방향이 너무 비슷해서 항상 긍정적이고 좋은 영향 많이 받아갑니다. 우연한 영상으로 구독자 1만일때부터 알았는데 참 행운이라고 생각합니다. 새해 복 듬뿍듬뿍 받으시고 행복하세요! 💖 감사합니다

  3. 다시 봐도 명언 대잔치인 팬미팅…❤ 도와드리러 갔다가 편지 대독까지 하게되어 영광이었습니다. 저도 현장에서 처음 읽으며 전해드린 편지라서, 부족함이 많았습니다. 편지를 써주신 분께 진심으로 양해의 말씀을 구하면서ㅠㅠ!! 아티앤바나나 뽀에버!!❤

  4. 딸에게쓰는편지..감성폭발로 눈물쏟겠다 ㅠㅠ싶었다가 딸이 내꺼 자기꺼라는 문구에서 눈물이 쏙들어가네요..자식을 소유로 생각하는건 음………

  5. 편지 읽는 부분에서 완전 터져 버렸어요 ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ 이 영상 인생 영상이에요 증말

  6. 스마트폰에 정법앱,유트브에 "정법강의"가1~10,000강이상 있습니다 모든 어려움 궁금증 검색 가능합니다 점검해보시고 좋으시면 주위 가족 지인분들과 공유하세요

  7. 책 한번 꼭 찾아 읽어 볼게요!! 그리고 틀이 없는 삶을 살아보고 싶어요 용기를 주셔서 고마워요 사랑해요 (;●;)♡

  8. 존경합니다 바나나님 ㅎㅎ 다음 팬미팅이 있다면 꼭 참석하고싶네요.
    새해복 많이 받으시구 미국에서도 행복한 하루하루 보내시길 바래요❤️

  9. 아직 20대 중반인데 저랑 비슷한 점이 너무 많으셔서 28분 시간가는 줄도 모르고 너무 감명깊게 봤어요! 내가 보는 세계가 다가 아닐 수도 있다. 마음깊이 새겨두고 살게요.. 바나나 언니 항상 너무 고마워요! 우리 2020년도 같이 화이팅해요 💫❤️

  10. 바나나님은 마음이 참 따뜻하신 분 같아요. 애들 왜 때려요? 라고 맞섰다는 것.. 그리고 저도 비슷한 이유로 한국이 너무너무 힘들어서 지금 호주 와 있는데, 사실 오기 전에 바나나님 영상들과 말들이 제게 큰 용기를 주었던 것 같아요.

    엄마의 딸이지만 그 틀 속에 절대로 살지 않고, 여친의 틀에 갖혀 살지 않고, 자신에게 타이틀을 주지 않는다는 게 제일 와닿았어요. Your thoughts are so special and beautiful. I love you

  11. 가지 않는 길은 언제나 외로운 법, 무쇠의 뿔 처럼 혼자서 가라는 법경 어구가 생각 나는 영상입니다
    힘든 시간이후에 더 단단해진 모습을 볼 수 있어서 다행이고 항상 응원해요 👍

  12. 넘 재미있게 듣고 깨닫는 것도 많았네요 ^^
    준거집단을 잘못 설정해서 오는 불안함은
    저도 개인적으로 많이 느낀 부분이라 더 그래요
    영상 감사해요♡🌷

  13. 젊은 시절로 돌아갈수만 있다면
    뭐든 부딪혀보고 안주하지 않고
    내 자신의 틀을 만들지도 않고
    자유롭지만 소신있게 살텐데..라는
    생각을 했어요.
    지금도 늦지 않았겠지만
    이만큼 나이 들어버린게
    참 많이 아쉽고 아쉽습니다.

    바나나쌤 얘기에 아침부터 또
    울컥하다 갑니다.
    소중한 영상 감사해요~♡

  14. 당당하고 너무 매력적이고 멋있어요
    정말 진실되고 감동적인 영상이에요
    제가 가장 좋아하는 유투버 중의 한 분이에요🤩👏👏👏❤

  15. 바나나선생님 ~ ㅠㅠ유튜브라는 플랫폼을 통해서 이렇게 많은사람들이랑 소통해주셔서 감사해요!
    요즘 정말..저의 꿈, 하고싶은 것, 잘하는 게 뭔지 도통 알 수 없어서 불안했는데 선생님의 책추천과 멘트덕분에 힘 얻고갑니다. 마지막멘트까지 너무좋았어요. 늘 건강하시고. 2020년에도 행복하세요 🙂 감사합니다!!

  16. 언니참신기해용…. 저도 작년인 25살때 외국인친구들이랑 해외에서봉사활동하면서 제자아를 확실히찾앗구 7년째만나던 남친이랑 아 더이상 얘랑사귀면 내가 내가될수없겟다는 생각이들어서 헤어졋거든요… 그리고나서 이제 나를 더 잘 이해해주는 다른남친도만나구 (생각보다빨리..ㅎ) 진짜 제인생의 2막이열리고 지금 해외나갈준비하고잇어요ㅠㅠ 정말 오랫동안고민한선택이라서 진짜 잘햇다고생각이들어요… 그리고 그뒤에 나댄다고 욕먹엇다는 부분이나 학교의 부조리에 너무나불만을 가졋엇다는 말씀도 정말 제가 20대초반까지만해도 느끼고 괴로워햇엇던점이랑 같아서 신기해요 그때는 저도 세상에 나만이런건가 하면서진짜 힘들엇고든요.ㅠ 심지어 제가도와준다고해도 거절하고 순응해서 사는 사람들을보는게 더 고통이엇죠ㅠ저도이제는 어느정도 극복햇지만요 ㅎㅎ
    그래서 언니가하시는말씀들이 항상 더 와닿는거같아요 늘 좋은말씀감사해요! ㅎㅎ

  17. 내 나이 60을 바라보면서 나는 지금도 뭘 잘하는지 뭘하고 살아야 될지 알지 못한다~~죽는 날까지  알 수 없을 수도 있을 듯~불안할때는 공부하자~책을 읽자~    공감합니다^^

  18. 시작부터 눈물 주르르😭 바나나 사랑해❤️
    영어자막 너무너무 감사해요 덕분에 외국인친구들에게 보여줄 수 있어요

  19. 오열하며 봤어요 ㅜ
    제속에 있었던 어린 저와 마주하게되어 너무 공감도가고 위로와 힘을 얻었습니다 감사하고 앞으로 함께 커나가고파요
    2020년엔 더 행복하시고 멋진 생각과 열정 많이 나눠주세요 바나나님 사랑해욥♥️

  20. 아 진짜.. 몇 년 동안 들은 동기부여 영상 중 최고예요! 위로가 되면서도 충고가 됐어요. 너무너무 감사해요 바나나님 아티님 지금처럼 멋지게 사시고 저도 틀을 만들지 않도록 노력하며 살겠습니다^^

  21. 다른분들 영상은 늘 1.5배속이나 1.75배속으로 빨리 보는데 아티님 영상은 그냥 봐요..ㅎㅎ 마음이 울리는 영상이네요 감사해요

  22. 잘 풀리지 않았었던 영화공부가 채널 영상들의 밑거름이 되었군요 정말 모든경험은 소중하단 생각이 듭니다 좌절과 편견의 틀을 깨고 나오신 바나나님 너무 멋지세요~ 저도 어떤 직업이나 분야로 정의되는 사람이아닌 나 자체로 인정받는사람이 되고싶네요 물론 그에 합당한 노력도 필요하겠지만요 🙂

  23. 저도 당신의 특별함을 봅니다 🙂 그런 특별한 사람들을 봅니다. 나의 특별함도 봅니다. 모든 숨겨진 아름다움을 봅니다. 당신 덕분에요

  24. 저는 초등학교선생님입니다… 내용에서 정말 공감했던 건 타이틀이라는거..
    엄마가 저랑 같이 있다가 다른 사람들을 만나면 가장 먼저 선생님이라고 말하곤 하는데 그게 너무 싫어서 엄청 화내곤 했어요
    그게 내 가장 중요한 부분인가? 그건 내 직업이고 일부분일뿐인데 하는 생각이 들더라고요..
    그리고 선생님이라고 하면 정해진 어떤 특정한 방식으로 행동해야할 것같은 압박감과 그 틀을 벗어나게 행동하면 안될 것같은 느낌
    일이 끝나면 저는 직업에서 벗어나 나 그 자체로 있고 싶은데 그렇게 소개하고 나면 일이 끝나고 나서도 그 사람들에게는 난 여전히 선생님이니까요
    물론 나를 잘 아는 내 친구들은 상관없지만요

  25. 어려운 시가가 있어서 더 그자리가 빛이 납니다!! 덕분에 저도 희망을 얻고 가요, 좋은 영상 감사합니다😊

  26. 내가 아는 걸 안다하고 모르는 걸 모른다고 솔직하게 말했던 내가, 다른 사람들의 가시돋힌 말들로 인해서 작아지고 소심해졌던 그 날들이 내 성격이라고 오랫동안 착각하고 살았는데 ㅠㅠ 이젠 안그럴거에여.

  27. 바나나님, 크리스탈 아이로 태어나셨네요.
    제 생각엔 책임감은 안가지셔도 되요. 그대로 존재하시는 거에 공감하고 공명하는 사람들이
    만나는 거겠죠..

  28. 아트 앤 바나나 홈페이지에서 프렌즈 다운받으셨던분 계시나요 저는 다운받았는데 재생이 안되요 ㅜㅜ 어케하는지 아시는분 도움주세요 플리즈

  29. 저는 밴쿠버 온 지 얼마 안되어서 영어 공부차 영상 보고 돌아다니는 중인데..바나나님, 참 사랑스럽네요. 구독 눌러요 :))

  30. 원래 멋진분인줄 알았지만, 오늘은 이렇게 눈물이 날 정도로 감동을 주시네요 🙂 감사합니다 진심으로

  31. 나나쌤❤️ 쌤의 소중하고 진솔한 이야기로 저의 삶이 조금씩 더 단단하게 바뀌어 가고 있는 것 같아요 책도 정말 소중히 잘 읽고 있어요 언제 어디서든 유튜브를 통해서 쌤을 이렇게 뵐 수있어 너무너무 좋아요 다음에 직접 만났을때는 좀 더 단단하고 알찬사람이 되어 뵙고싶어요 쌤의 명언을 기억하며 일상을 열심히 채울거에요 사랑해용 쌤❤️

  32. 계속 얘랑 있으면 평생 내가 될 수 없겠구나 ㅎㅎ 느낌은 아는데 뭔지 정확히 몰랐던 것을 정확히 짚어주시는 말씀이었습니다.
    뭔가 되게 좋은 옷인 것 같은데 맞지 않는 옷 같은 적도 있었고, 겉보기에는 예쁜 옷인데 알고보니 소재가 쓰레기인 옷도 있었고…
    세상에는 좋은 옷이라고 나랑 맞는지 재보지도 않고 바로 입는 사람들도 많아서 내가 예민한건가, 잘못 하고있는건 아닌가 생각하기도 했었죠.
    지금 배우자는 제가 꾸미지 않고 제 자신일 수 있게 방생(?)하는데 이게 저랑 맞는 옷이네요 ㅎㅎ 고맙습니다 저도 알랭드보통의 일부 책들은 읽어봤는데 저 책은 안읽어봐서 봐봐야 겠네요

  33. 몰라 시발 일단 돈을 번담에 한국을 뜨자. 도망치는게 아니라 여기서 우물안 개구리같이 살수는 없다
    그리고 결혼하고 애안낳으면 모를까 만약에 아이를 낳는다면 한국은 절대 안됨 .만약 지금과 정말 달라진다면 모를까.

  34. 보면서 계속 눈물을 흘렸어요ㅠㅠ
    쉽게 판단하지않기 약속합니다
    항상 진실한 가르침 주셔서 감사합니다
    바나나 선생님 승승장구하세요🙏❣

  35. 바나나님의 이야기와 빠른 이야기들이 마음 깊이 쏙쏙 박히는 건 이 긴 과정을 거치고도 스스로를 다져 낸 에너지가 느껴지기 때문인 것 같아요. 너무 멋져요 바나나님, 올해 다시 영어 공부 시작했습니다. 잘 부탁드려요!

  36. 바나나샘 팬미팅에 못 가서 넘 아쉽네요~
    영상으로도 쌤의 진정성과 열정이 고스란히 느껴지네요
    너무 감동이예요 ㅠㅠ
    쌤의 새로운 직업이 보이네요~
    강연가!!!!!!!!

  37. 감동받고 여러가지 일이 생각나면서
    눈물이 나네요 ~~ 바나나님 너무 고마워요 🙏
    좋은 영상 많이 만들어줘요!!!

  38. 너무 좋은 말씀 감사드립니다. 더 자신있게 이 세상을 살 수 있을거같아요! 감사합니다:)

  39. 울었어요…ㅠㅠ 저보다 훨씬 동생한테 많은 걸 배우는 나이가 됐네요. 마음도 얼굴도 예쁜 바나나, 아티 정말 응원하고 늘 배울게요~~

  40. 저랑 비슷한 경험을 하셨네요
    한국에서 큰얼굴에 키도큰 성격 쎄고예민한 사람으로 취급 받았는데
    해외서 살면서 제가 얼굴시 예쁘고 특별하고 잘하는게 있다는걸 알게되었어요 그렇게 자신감은 얻은 덕분에 지금은 전문직에 종사하며 자리잡고 잘 살아 가고 있어요
    제가 해외 나갈때 정말 이기적이게 모든게 싫어서 다 버리고 나갔지만 다른 한편으론 겁도 났었지만 정말 잘한 선택인것 같아요
    그런 선택이 앞으로의 제 인생 선택을 믿고 추진해 나갈 힘이 된답니다

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